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Mark
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My ex had sexual problems. He had a desire and willing to make love, but he could not realize his desire often. It caused problems in our relationships, of course, and when I tried to talk to him, he said nothing. He considered it to be the wrong theme for talks and wanted me to pretend like nothing happening. He could improve our sexual life and make us feel harmony and enjoy each other, if he begin to talk about it, maybe consult a specialist, but his silence and doing nothing spoiled everything. I just wrote this story to make other men who is ashamed of their problems and do not want to talk about them, think twice. You can make your life better, so do not waste this chance. Do you agree?

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Mark
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I hope he will realize his mistake and become more mature and serious. He can spoil his life, loose so many opportunities and pleasures just because he avoid of solving his problem. It is wrong. It is silly. Poor man.

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Don
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Sex is very important in relationships. It is difficult to build good relationships, strong couple without sex. He is wrong if he does not want to do everything to improve his health and to be able to enjoy intimate relationships. But no one can convince him. He should understand it by himself.

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Mark
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He just spoils his life with his own hands. He should change his mind and finally become mature to solve the problem, but not to pretend like it does not exist.

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Billy-Bob
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i understand you, all the time i try to talk with him about all problem that we have, but he doesn't want, or it better to say he can't. i get used to this, but this is not right. Maybe some people just naturally can speak about their relation. if your partner is such you shoulf try to find a way out, for example to write to each other, may be this would be easier for him than talk

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Mark
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[quote="Billy-Bob" post=667]i understand you, all the time i try to talk with him about all problem that we have, but he doesn't want, or it better to say he can't. i get used to this, but this is not right. Maybe some people just naturally can speak about their relation. if your partner is such you shoulf try to find a way out, for example to write to each other, may be this would be easier for him than talk[/quote]

he is not his partner anymore, so I think he does not need to do his best to solve ex's problems if he is not ready to do it. But I agree with you , that you should learn talking to each other, sharing your thoughts and solving your problems even if it is difficult, because it is too important. Even writting would be better than keeping silence.

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Alex
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I agree with you, guys, that it is better to learn how to talk about problems if you are interested in serious and long relationships. Silence would not make anything good to you and your partner. it will just spoil everything and make you feel distance between you.

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Billy-Bob
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[quote="Mark" post=820][quote="Billy-Bob" post=667]i understand you, all the time i try to talk with him about all problem that we have, but he doesn't want, or it better to say he can't. i get used to this, but this is not right. Maybe some people just naturally can speak about their relation. if your partner is such you shoulf try to find a way out, for example to write to each other, may be this would be easier for him than talk[/quote]

he is not his partner anymore, so I think he does not need to do his best to solve ex's problems if he is not ready to do it. But I agree with you , that you should learn talking to each other, sharing your thoughts and solving your problems even if it is difficult, because it is too important. Even writting would be better than keeping silence.[/quote]

oh! i just don't understand it from his post. because i read about a problem which actually i also have and try to give some advise at ones.
he made a good deal that has wrote his example of problem here, maybe someone will read and put on considering cap about it

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Mark
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I have some tips for you! Just try it. I hope you will get success. I recently read this!
Try to make dates.Castleman and Weston are in firm agreement that couples that have been together for a while need to plan time for sex.

"Make a date for sex," says Castleman, a health journalist who previously answered questions about sexuality submitted to the Playboy advisor. "Don't let it be an afterthought," he tells WebMD. "Do whatever you like to do beforehand, go to a movie or dinner, take a walk, have a glass of wine by candlelight, whatever the couple likes to do as a couple. But set aside that time."

But, you might cry, isn't scheduling unromantic? Isn't sex supposed to be spontaneous? Rare is the lover with a daily planner fetish, after all.

But Castleman has a blunt response. "Grow up," he says. "What's the problem with making a date for sex? People make plans for other things they enjoy, like ski trips or dinners out."

Weston agrees. "I think most people, especially couples with kids, have to plan ahead because they already have so much jammed into their schedules," she says. "Sure there are times when things spontaneously fall together, but those are happy accidents."

Try to get Out of the House. One good suggestion for a better love life is to take regular nights away from home.

"For couples that have been together for a while, sex can become routine," says Castleman. "You're worn out by the end of the day, after the job, the laundry, the kids' soccer games, and the errands.

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Mark
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You should definitely tell him everything you want. It would be better to tell someone you are really close to and trust not to tell anyone else or judge you for it (like your best friend or a family member). If you really can't tell someone you know, call the hotline for sure. Not only will you get the heavy feeling off your chest, but you will hear the perspective of another person and gain insight and understanding about what happened, why, etc. and how you can get over the shame of it, learn from it, and move on.

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LittleLion
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Sex is a great way to recharge at the end of the day and to break up your routine. If you do the usual routine every day, try throwing in sexy time randomly. This will keep your relationship hot and spontaneous. What guy doesn’t love that? You will too!

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