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Peter
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A baby with a friend

My colleague from work is lonely guy, he has no one for years but he always wanted to have a child and yesterday he told me a secret, that his friend (really she is just friend, nothing more) is pregnant and they will have a baby. I thought it was an accident, like it happens sometimes, but no. They both want to have children, they both are lonely and they decided to make a baby and raise him/her together. It sounds a bit strange for me, while they are not going to live together and how will they share duties and create a right atmosphere for baby. What if his friend will find someone in future and want to create family and to raise a child without my friend’s help anymore? What do you think? Are all ways to have baby are good or sometimes you should think twice about all the consequences?

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Mark
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I do not think it is a good idea, because no one knows what happen in future. His woman can fall in love and take a child for creating a new family with her partner. And what will he do then? It can cause a lot of problems in future not just for them, but for a child too.

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Birdman
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looks like co-parenting and nothing more. people do it like this. Sometimes gay and lesbian couples do like this, when leasbian woman carry the baby and than child have to gay famlies and some time live in one family and some time in another one. It is also not bad way out for some couples. At least it is a real chance to become parents.

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Nill
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i even don't know how to imagine it? And how you want to inseminate her? Naturally or with a help of artificial insemination? But I slightly can imagine your further life in such conditions. as for me it is not the best idea, sorry.

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Billy-Bob
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i think it's great, but one proble exist and will exist always, what will they do when one of them (or both) would found their reallove and want to live with him, what to do with child then?
they do a good deal, help each other, but how to live farther? i would never do such things

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Peter
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did they do it for purpose? Think yes. And how he slept with her? As for me it is somekind of starnge situation but if they did it because wanted to become parents we have no right to judge them. Just they didn't find some other way out.

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Peter
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Well, it is very strange idea, in my opinion. There is no guarantee that your friend will at least see (I don't even talk about living together and bringing up) this child when he or she is born. And how are they planning to bring up a child if they are not even going to live together? I don't think that one of them will agree with a status of "Sunday parent" (and it will probably have to be a child's father, because the mother should be close to the child 24\7 at least during the breastfeeding period). It is their decision, but if I was them I would never do it.

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Peter
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i agree with you, Don, it is sound really strange, because how can two people who are not planning to live together have a baby? it's really something crazy to say, or better not normal. child needs a family, one happy family, but not two homes, and parents there who just made him together and that's all. i would not do this in my life

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Richard
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Children should be born with love, for love and from love. This is a necessary condition for a child to develop normally - to know that he or she was born not accidentally but because his\her parents love each other and wanted their love to continue even when they are gone. And looking at his\her parents and their relationships a child learns to treat his\her future husband or wife, creating his\her own family and bringing up his\her children. So if parents don't even live together, if they don't love each other and they are not a real family, then I am sorry for that child.

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Nill
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I think they will have a lot of problems in future. But their problems look like trifles if to compare with problems which their child can have. Is he biological father of this baby? Imagine what child should think when he has father and mother and everything looks like traditional divorced family. But what should child think when he will see that his father live with other man and mother lives with other man too. i think it can be hard for a child. But maybe i am wrong.

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Steve
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Yes, it is quite strange, people should thing many times before taking such responsible decision. I can not even imagine how they will bring a child up, all of them will only suffer, I suppose. For creation of a REAL family, people should be emotionally connected and love each other, in this case it will be only playing a game "family". In addition, we do not know what will be with us tomorrow, how can he or she promise that they will raise a child together? Of course, some people have a strong willing to have a child, but I suppose that this one is not the variant of making this child happy.

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