It is truly important to stand in for your child in certain situations-if you won't be able to do that,you won't be able to help and understand your kid,so,no matter how it sounds,you won't have the right to call yourself a father.Sometimes there is a situation,when all you really can do-think as a child,recall the times of your being a kid.You have to be a real good child psychologist yourself,in order for you to have a better understanding of your child's problems and to help to solve them,not just standard saying,that it'll be alright.Real help is what required in those type of situations.
Each parent should put himself on his child's place when it is possible. A toddler doesn't know why he cries even at the moment he cries, and of course he doesn't remember it when it is time for him to have his own children. But with teenagers the situation is different. We all remember our teenage years, and if most people are asked to describe this period using only one word, this word will be "complicated". But when our children become teenagers, we usually foget our own experience and repeat those mistakes which our parents used to make.
Of course it is important. Sometimes when parents try to punish their children even for some small things, which are not so important, they really forget that they were children as well and did the same. I have already told that children are the best in the world cause they are kind-hearted and never lies. They are active, and their activity sometimes leads to bad consequences. I believe that parents should firs of all sit and talk, but not punish at once. Talking leads to understanding and rising the main problems, and punishing makes your relations with a child only worse.
I agree with a previous comment. Sometimes when parents try to punish their children even for some small things, which are not so important, they really forget that they were children as well and did the same. Parent forget about some very important circumstances and that their children might have done that or this just because they did not have another way out. Or they are simply too active. First of all it is greatly important to sit down and talk to your kid. And only when you are sure that the thing he did has no excuses you may think of punishment as it is)
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