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Lanny
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The best age difference between children

What do you think? What should be the time gap between two or more children? I think the difference between 2 and 4 years.Small but not very small difference in age means to save the psyche of all. You already have a good sleep ever since, as had the first child, so I think without a shudder of upcoming watches of the night. At the same time, it was still long enough that you forgot how to care for your baby. You have enough to think about the future, and clear parent philosophy (most importantly, not be allowed to second the kid used to sleep in the car, like his older brother). Big plus: you and your husband again even be able to find time for regular intimate relationships.

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If your children have 1 year gay they will go through the same stages in fairly close succession, which makes it financially easier to hand down clothing, toys and equipment rather than arranging storage for years. Observational studies of parents and how well they coped with young children have found that this age gap is easiest as the parent can treat both babies similarly. This age gap is thought to be best at unifying the family. The early hardship of caring for two young children can help draw fathers into the action. The tasks are so demanding that even the most alienated and reluctant father would have to step in.

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Lanny
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when you have siblings with 1 year difference your children may have the same friends, watch the same TV, and play the same games, all of which often means less work for you. You can organise family outings without having to wait years until the youngest child is ready to participate. You can get rid of all of the baby clutter quicker. Where siblings are close in age they seek, child psychologists have argued, to differentiate themselves from one another all the more. The process is referred to as 'de-identification. They'll play well together. Siblings who know they need each other to continue their games are motivated to sort out their disagreements. In other words, as the importance of companionship goes up, the importance of rivalry goes down.

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Lanny
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Your existing child is less likely to reject the new baby as they won’t fully understand issues such as displacement, territory or personal possessions. Having not experienced an extended period of exclusive parental attention, they develop lesser expectations of receiving preferential treatment from parents. These benefits have been shown to extend into adolescence. Studies have shown that girls benefit intellectually from closer-spaced sibling age gaps. However the reverse is true for boys. The closer the age gap, the more creative your children are likely to be, regardless of gender.

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Lanny
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if you will have siblings with a gap of 2 yeas you’ll remember how to care for a newborn whilst also having the confidence that comes with being a more experienced mum. Your children will play reasonably well together.
Your first-born is now more capable of waiting a bit before having his needs satisfied.
Firstborns often take to their newly acquired status as the older child by showing new self-reliance in matters such as dressing, toilet use and feeding, even volunteering to give up their “babyish” bottles and by contentedly entertaining themselves.
This age gap has been shown to enhance the older child’s ability in maths and in reading

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Lanny
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When your children are 3 years your child may be receptive to having a doll so he or she can be a caregiver too, thus facilitating their understanding. She will have her own established life and friends which will continue once the baby is born. This adds a helpful layer of consistency and familiarity to her life when she needs it most. You have the lowest risk of labor complications. This age gap is best for the health of the new baby, with a decreased risk of being born prematurely, underweight or of developing congenital anomalies. In fact, a 3 year gap is nature’s preferred pattern. This is because until babies began using bottles, and a surplus of food for their mothers became available, women’s bodies were unlikely to conceive again until at least 3 years after birth.

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3 years gap between children is so common that your firstborn will have friends with similarly spaced siblings, which is very convenient for double playdates.nBy the time your second baby arrives you should have caught up on sleep. You’ll have time with just your baby while your older child is at pre-school. Some of the most intense parts of parenting become easier with a calmer, and more independent 3 year old. She is more articulate and can entertain herself for limited amounts of time. Your first-born is mature enough to enjoy the new baby and also to enjoy time away from you without seeing it as a threat.

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Alex
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Waht about the 4 years gap? This is deemed the best spacing if you have a career. Some researchers believe this spacing is optimal for children's emotional and social development. It frees the parent from having to meet the demands and pressures of two children close together in age, thus allowing parents and children more time in one-to-one interaction for a more supportive and relaxed relationship. This gap is good for your eldest child's self esteem - they are more secure and more independent as they have had your attention for years. The rationale here is that the longer a parent-child relationship remains exclusive, or at least has the appearance of exclusiveness, the greater the chance it will gather sufficient strength to withstand a second child’s intrusion. The elder child has developed cognitively to the point that they are capable of realising that the arrival of the new baby wasn't because they were suddenly inadequate or had done something wrong.

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Many feel that older children, because of their greater intellectual maturity and independence, are in a better position to understand and therefore be spared, jealousy. Your children won't feel that they are competing for the same kind of attention from you. The older child does not see a baby as competition, but as an adorable being to enjoy and nurture. She sees a baby as an addition to her life rather than a threat to her primary relationship with mom or dad...She is not with the baby sharing mom, but with the mom sharing the baby. Your older child may be mature enough to attend the delivery, which can aid bonding. If the birth involves a hospital stay, your older child is likely to cope better with being separated from you.

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Lanny
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Studies have shown that boys in particular benefit intellectually from a large sibling age gap, particularly if they are the eldest child. The younger sibling is less likely to be diagnosed with autism than a child with a smaller age gap. You’ll have plenty of time with your baby whilst your older child is at school. Indeed, observational studies of parents and infants have found that if four years or more have passed since the birth of the last child, parents are more likely to treat a new infant with the special care and attention she lavished on her firstborn. When your kids play together, their play will have more value. Play works best in terms of nurturance when those playing are at different stages in childhood.

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Mark
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At about the age of five, children develop a distinct self-sufficiency that makes it easier for you to balance the needs of more than one child. Most can get themselves a snack, entertain themselves in their room, or have a friend over while you're busy with baby. Those who are 4 or more years apart tend to accept help from each other more readily (usually the younger from the elder), and be more willing to teach and praise each other. When you are in the middle of nursing, the older sibling can answer phone calls, get you a drink of water, fetch a baby wipe, etc. You’ll have the confidence that comes with having been a parent for years. It's likely that you'll be more relaxed this time and less likely to worry about the little things.

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