An even greater problem with the science of sexual orientation is that it seeks to find the genetic causes of gayness, as if we all agree about what gayness is. To say that “being gay” is genetic is to engage in science that hinges on a very historically recent and specifically European-American understanding of what being gay means. In Ancient Greece, sex between elite men and adolescent boys was a common and normative cultural practice. When young college women lick each other’s boobs at frat parties, or when young college men stick their fingers in each other’s butts while being hazed by their frat brothers, we don’t call this gay—we call this “girls gone wild” or “hazing.”
I suggest that those topics are set on the genetic level, because sometimes i hear the suggestions of people that the nature has failed in making new body and life. Like something has changed in the brains while giving birth. I mean that i was thinking about that through the whole my life, but finally realized that i am gay when i was 26 years old, i just understood that when my relationships with my wife became the thing that is really irritating and i have found the guy that proved it to me. He showed me the best pleasure ever that my wife has not ever give that to me.
Most homosexual people are in fact born that way, others may pick to be gay or have things that occur during their life that takes them that direction sexually. There is so much proof that people are born gay these days that people that do not believe it really just have their heads stuck in the sand, we need to be more open and loving to everyone's sexual desires as long as they are legal.I do not think that being gay is a choice. I suppose that it can be for some people, but most just, know. You cannot help who you are attracted to and gay people do not deserve to be judged, let them be who they are.
To my mind, men are not born gays. I think we became gays, because of many reasons, some started loving men because they were very close to their mothers and wanted to be like her, some became gays because they did not feel comfortable and feel pleasure while making love with girls...That is my reason too - I had long relations with a women 7 years ago, she we was a nice person and really beautiful woman and I know she did love me, but i did not feel any pleasure in bed with her, then i tried to have sex with other ladies but all those attempts were not successful, and only when i met a guy and we made love with him, i understood that i became a gay and i am really proud of it now!
As for me I was about twenty when i understood that I`m a gay with finality. I liked girls in childhood, and noticed that men attract me when I was eighteen. Now I think that gays are born gays, because nothing pushed me to be like that.I had no example of gays in my surrounding, nobody suggested me anything.I find out my orientation absolutely occasionaly! I was shoked for little time, because i was brought up to be a normal man with wife and children. Now of course I don`t doubt that i will have a normal family even with children.
I think that I was born a gay. I don't remember the age when I felt my attraction to people of my gender, but I remember very well, that all my childhood I felt something special to boys. I realised my sexual orientation, when I was 13 years old. I think that this fact depends on a person himself.
i thik the situations can be absolutely different. Some people are already born in the strangers' body and they really understand, that they are living not their lives. Other came to it after some extraordinary situations and psychological problems. Some only try to behave themselves like gays, like the fashion( i'm really sorry for these people). But in most cases you don't choose your fate. And i really laughed when heard that some doctors of the 19th century tried to 'cure' this 'desease' with electric shock therapy!!!! I understood that i was not straight when i was 12 ( maybe it was the time of hormones , that woke up in me). Girls were just like friends, but no love or attraction. I really liked the boy from my class , but i never told him and shared this with my sister or parents. They knew about me only when i was 18)
i know that a lot of guys are talking about that and i think that it causes really many different discussions and everything like that and that is why i do not even know what to tell you about it because i think that it can be really very different and i do not want to cause any conflicts or anything like that and i hope that you would understand me in it.the thing is that i think that you shall understand that you can not love women all your life and then become a gay and i think that you know it and that is why i think more that people are born gays, maybe not fully but with the time they understand themselves and they become gays, but i think that it is my opinion, hope that you would not judge it.
I agree with all of you. I also never felt feelings for girls. I saw them with my friends, but no more. As a child, I did not realize, or simply did not want to realize it. As a teenager, my friends have already started discussing girls and then I realized that I would not want to spend my life with any of them. So I think that this is still not a choice, this is what we were born with. The gays existed always, but it was not just as public as now. Therefore, many people allow themselves to say that gays invented themselves and they can be "fixed." This is not true.Many guys "choke" themselves with relationships with girls, but with age they realize that it's impossible to do anything about it
You know I think that each of us may have different reasons for this. Someone has already been born as a gay. And someone might realize that he can not be happy with a woman, and so he will be looking for his happiness with a man. So, each of us has their own reasons for all this. In addition, some men who were born as gay may not immediately understand it. So we have what we have now. In addition, each of us has its own very complex psychology. We can meet some of the problems in our lives that will give us to understand that we are gays. It really is a very broad question.
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