We afraid of failures, big changes make us think ALOT. I think people should stop thinking too much, because in such case they just create problems which doesn't exist and they start to believe in all this nonsenses and that's why they just stay at the same place for too long time and loose all chances. We should stop think "But what If...".STOP!We should live our lives and don't think about bad things.
Your "me" time disappears from your schedule.Most guys need a little time to space out -- to think about nothing in order to recharge. Once you're a dad, you have to be creative to get this time back in your life, and you'll probably feel like you need it more than ever, no matter how much you love spending time with your new addition. You may have to wake up 30 minutes earlier for work, or partner up with your wife to help each other grab a few do-nothing breaks. Designating regular time for yourself isn't selfish; it's essential to being a focused dad.You are now responsible in a way that you have never been before.Now, you may constantly realize just how seemingly unqualified you are for the job of fatherhood; you may question your ability to care for a child, and your worthiness, every step of the way. But rest assured--you're not the first dad to feel this way: We didn't come programmed on this whole parenting thing, but we were programmed to wing it.
I have not become a parent yet, but i guess that this is the greatest happiness ever to discover that you will have a child in closest tome, because it is the treasure of our life. All of us, even not being a parent has ever thought about the things that experience parents when they already are. I always was wondering what if i teach my future son or daughter wrong things or those one that i haven't been taught when i was a child. I have only mum , like i remember only her and know that for sure, so i know what it is to be grown without a father, do not want to make this happen to my child.
I think that people who become parents change their life completely. If when you didn`t have the child you were able to do anything you want, to have sex when and where you want. You had a lot of time for yourself and for the relations with your partner. But everything changes when appears the child. It may sound terrifying, but it is not. You cannot do whatever you want, but now you have someone who will love you more than anything in this world, now you can admire first steps, smile and help with the piece of advice. Now you have the small part of yourself that can hug you. :blush: :blush: :)
after becoming a parent my life changed really very much and not in a bad side. we became really happy people, i could not imagine that i would love some as much as i love our son. and i could not understand that i love children so much and can be as good parent as i am. i saw my partner from very different sides. i didnt know that he could be so tender and cute, and with the appearing of the child he became so. now we are very close to each other. we were not so before the birth of our son.
The apperance of a child in a family brings changes. Of course, sometimes it brings difficulties, but it is real happiness. Our family is not an exception, we had difficulties at the beginning, because every of us had some inner fears whether we would be good parents. We did not have enough sleep, our schedules changed, we even had some quarrels with my partner on this background. But with time we learned to cope with our feelings and understood that support and helping each other would make our relationships stronger and our family happier. All in all, it is life and nobody is protected from misunderstandings.
Ithink that it is important to see the border between reality and dreams. A lot of future parents dream that everything will be like in film but it will not be like this. It is life, it is reality and often we face with problems. of course, there are a lot of changes in all aspects of your life. you should take care about child, you should buy a lot of special things for child, you can make love in all rooms in the house, you should change your schedule. But I think that it worth to change your life for that.
i can tell you it for sure as i dont have children but i think changes are extremely big and it will be evry difficult for you to get used to the new member of you family. actually it think that parenting is very very difficult as you are responsible not only for yourself but also for the other small person. it will be very difficult for you. but with the times you will get used to it, and you will accept it as normal thing. you will like this period of your life very much.
As for me I have not become a parent yet, but i guess that this is the greatest happiness ever to discover that you will have a child in closest tome, because it is the treasure of our life. All of us, even not being a parent has ever thought about the things that experience parents when they already are. I always was wondering what if i teach my future son or daughter wrong things or those one that i haven't been taught when i was a child. I have only mum , like i remember only her and know that for sure, so i know what it is to be grown without a father, do not want to make this happen to my child.
I am not a parent yet, but I am interested in your answers, because I am going to adopt a child in the near near future. Some friends told me about such problems in their relationships. And there are no stable tips of how to prevent this or that problem. Support your partners in every step of becoming good parents.
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