From time to time, we just do not think about things that we demand from our children. We can limit their desires and interests in stupid situations. Even if your son or daughter will obey you, inside they are very offended by you. After all, you hate yourself, when you, for example, distract from an interesting telephone conversation or cooking in the kitchen. You feel angry at this person, it can even be dissatisfaction in the shower - and in fact experiencing similar feelings and a child. Only children to manage their feelings still do not know how, they are impulsive and often all they have experienced, spills out.
Absolutely all parents know this problem as children of disobedience. The child does not respond to the comments, he strives to do everything in their own way? With this situation can be quite easy to handle, we need only to understand the root of the problem. Remember, how often do you forbid something to his child? Especially the fact that until recently allowed? Such conflicting commands of parents and the child to provoke disobedience. He simply can not understand why today is forbidden to do what could be yesterday. Very often blame in such conflicts on our conscience.
Another similar mistake parents is the threat of punishment. Dad often just threaten the child without applying penalties in practice. At first, your child believes every your promise, but the older he gets, the more he sees these contradictions. Parents should politely, gently and persistently to raise the child certain emotions. Tiny hard to ignore their inner urge to action. Therefore, it is important to bring up the your child in the sense of braking while banning objectionable action. We first of all need to think about your own behavior to our children because this is the reason for their disobedience.
This is absolutely the wrong tactics to forcibly prohibit anything. The child learns only externally to brake the emotions and actions of desire will not go away, and the motif of the ban will remain undigested. You should, barring, to bring to the attention of the child's arguments that he was having thoughts that can inhibit desire. Thus, you build has a moderating arousal, not just braking. For scholars important to bring to the consciousness of the consequences of their actions through their sense of pride, shame, justice, etc. Otherwise, you'll make things worse.
I think that many parents simply do not know how to bring up the their children. Then they get the same problems. The more you forbid, the less the child remembers all the prohibitions. Try not to prohibit and prevent unwanted actions of children. For example, remove from sight baby valuables; do not show him a photo or video from your phone, if you do not want him to play with him. In order the child learned your ban and took note of it, you need to talk to him calmly and friendly. I think that each of us can find this very logical and understandable.
I think one of the biggest mistakes many parents that disobedience leads to their children is just a scream. When you shout or speak too annoyed, the child appears similar to the state of irritation and it is a natural feeling of resistance. Rather than scold the child for being too undesirable activity, calmly ask them to do other useful work: to feed the cat, play together, etc. Never break their taboos and promises, keep this child the word. Requirements to the education of the parents must be united, and spouses should strictly adhere to them.
Even a loving and caring father does not find the strength to give the child more love, warmth and care, if his relationship with the baby does not exactly succeed. Irritation, anger and failure are frequent companions' families with disobedient "increasingly robbing him of joy upbringing the child. But we must remember that being disobedient difficult not less than to tolerate disobedience. The fact that disobedience poorly tolerated even by the child himself. He has to constantly "to defend him" rebellious, mischievous, thereby responding to parental prohibitions and requirements. This constant tension, anxiety, and sometimes aggression.
A good relationship with your child give more free time for father. Having a good relationship with your child, you will be able to easily negotiate with him. Feeling your love, care and attention the baby will not "beg" you focus on yourself, and you will have more time for yourself, household chores or work. But first of all we need to know how to treat our children. Because when our children show some kind of moods, scandals or simply do not listen to us, it is their way to go against the rules. This means that we also assume certain mistakes.
With childlike disobedience faced absolutely all parents, the difference consists only in the frequency of these collisions and their scope. For some children of disobedience - a series of earth-shattering event, but for someone - a standard situation. Ways to annoy parents there are so many, and the children to be extremely resourceful in this matter. However, not all parents consider a manifestation of disobedience, in fact, such is. Evaluating child behavior, parents need to take into account factors such as the children's curiosity and thirst for knowledge of the world, emotional instability, which often take up even the most diligent of children.
Many faults are the result of misunderstanding, ignorance and imperfection child coordination of movements. Something crashed, overturned, spilled, spilled, overturned this child could not do it on purpose, respectively, to perceive it as disobedience impossible. At the same time some of the negative actions of a child commits quite consciously, what is called evil. Here already is a question of children's disobedience. If the child is not enough parental attention, he fights for it as you can. Sometimes the child wants to receive at least some attention, even negative, but would not indifference.
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