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Dating with several guys

Many people have a negative view of serial daters. They think someone who dates several people at once must be a cheater, a commitment-phobe or at a minimum, a liar.While this may be true of some persens who are dating multiple people, I actually believe that there are many good (and, in fact, great) reasons to date several different people when you're single. I even think that dating many people might be one of the best ways to find the one person you are really looking to find.It's good to date outside your comfort zone.So many people date "comfortably"; they keep seeing people who are nice, but they never date anyone who really excites them. They go out with whoever happens to cross their path and then don't look any further. This person is fine, so there's no need to cast around for others, right? Wrong!It's all about being open and honest. One reason a lot of people shy away from dating multiple people is because they feel awkward about what to say if one of the people they're seeing asks them about it. Dating several people at once is not about having to hide things or about being deceitful.

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Dating with several guys

You need the guy who has good conversations, I mean the 'When Harry Met Sally' type of conversations. He respects you but isn't afraid to offend you with his opinion. This guy is also good for going out to dine with and just hang out with. You do NOT have sex with him. Then there's the guy you could use for sex. The sex is amazing and dynamite, and addicting and if you were in a relationship it would definitely cause you to cheat. This is the guy you sleep with. And if you're sleeping with one of the two previous I mentioned then you may not have need for this guy. The only thing you both have in common is the sex and you avoid any and all awkward conversations wanting to get down to the deed.

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Carl
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You would better share with others. In my experience, this internalized belief is the poison that prevents some gay men from building a healthy relationship, and also why many mess up the ones they already have. There’s a reason for this. Few of us grow up unscathed by family, peers, and a society hostile to our attractions and behaviors. Some of us have been bullied as children; physically, verbally, and emotionally abused at tender ages by our peers and family members for being gay before we even recognized and understood our same-sex attractions. This toxic internalized belief is further ingrained if we have been treated harshly (or abandoned) by our fathers, the first men in our lives to teach us about our value in the eyes of other males.

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Peter
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Dating with several guys

Why do you actually do that? It is not correct from several points of view. Firstly, are you sure your boyfriends are not informed about each other. You just cannot know about that , but you cannot be sure for the whole their true actions. You need to check the relationships between them, because in that case the problem can appear. Second thing is that it is kinda dirty action to have sex with different partners for many times. I do not want to say that sex is best thing to do, but do you owe the paper from the doctor that all them are like clear? Thin about that

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Dating with several guys

It depends on the sort of person you are. I think that this is very hard to date to few people, as you need to have so much love in your heart. Well, to say seriously, I do not think that this is normal to date few people. Do you really think that your future will be fine? i guess no. You need to understand whom you love and keep on dating just with one person to have the normal anf fixed future.

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Dating with several guys

I think it's great to date casually - you get to know a lot of different guys this way and figure out what you want. As long as you're honest with them, i.e. if they ask you point blank about exclusivity, then I think you're fine. As for sex, that's something only you can answer...some people are more comfortable with casual sex. For me, I've realized that it leaves me feeling vulnerable, and I hate that feeling, so I don't sleep with someone until I know that we at least have something established. I've never been in the position of sleeping with several people within a short period of time, but again, if you're safe, and you feel emotionally ok with it, then I think you're fine.
Do you feel judged at all by your female friends? I know that I do at times...

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Peter
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I don’t personally believe in sleeping with more than one man at a time. I think it’s fair, and even advisable, to entertain different prospects at the beginning of dating–see who you might be relationship material and who’s not quite a fit. About two months ago when I gave dating another go I was talking to 5 men, I met with 2 and am now just dating 1 (and he is the only one I’ve been intimate with).I think by choosing men that are so far YOU’RE setting up the dynamic for them to be sexual relationships. If you’ve been “dating” these men for a long time I think you need to sh!t or get off the pot. And if it hasn’t been long, what’s the rush to jump into bed? Get to know them outside of the bedroom.

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Steve
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I think that dating with several guys is not a bad thing. Some people go on a first date and the magic of love appears immediately. But other people have to date someone many times to know whether there’s chemistry in the air—and they may need to date several people before they finally feel that “click.” If you immediately exclude all other guys from the moment you have your first date with someone until his behaviour annoys you, you may have to go through several mini-relationships in a row before you’re done. Going on dates with a few different people the same time helps you find out fast who is not suitable for you and continue your search of your man.

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I think it is not a good idea to date with several guys in the same time. I will tell you my story. Where was one guy in my life. I loved him very much, but he did not love me. Of course he thought that i am his and that i do not have another man. We met with him very often but he wants only to have sex and i always thought that he will change and one day will be in love with me. At the same time i met wonderful guy who loved me very much and wanted to be with me. But i loved another guy. Of course i did not tell him and met with him too. I was not happy about it. And i will never do it again.

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Ben29
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Dating with several guys at the period of your life is disgusting, as for me. If you a man with some life principles, then you will never do so. Moreover, there is the only one reason of dating with several guys, and it is sex. If you really love a person, then there will no desire to be with someone else.

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