If you mean you are a stayhomeguy and don't work and stay home oh my god the list of your duties is endless you ready.
Vacuum daily, wash clothes if needed, sweep kitchen, wipe down counters, and fridge and stove, if they look fine do it only a few times a week. clean bathrooms at least 2 times a week, make sure you take lots of breaks in between unless you have little ones then you have to watch and play with them and make sure they have breakfast, lunch, and dinner which you have to prepare, no easy ones every night like hot dogs and French fries. Try to get everyone to eat fruit and veggies but try your best to have the house looking decent when the person paying for you to stay home can relax or hand him off the kids and go for a nap
Couples who don't have a system for household tasks can get really resentful, really quickly.Domestic responsibilities are a time bomb in many marriages. Marriage usually begins with a willingness of both spouses to share them. Newlyweds commonly wash dishes together, make the bed together, and divide many household tasks. The groom welcomes the help he gets from his partner because, prior to marriage, he’d been doing it all alone as a bachelor. At this point in marriage, neither of them regard domestic responsibilities as an important marital issue. But the time bomb is ticking.This solution will require you to do something that is essential in solving most conflicts: get organized. It means you must think through your problem carefully and systematically. You will need to write down your objectives and create solutions that take each other’s feelings into account. While you may find all of this awkward and terribly “not you,” there is not other way. Besides, when you’re done, you may find it to be more comfortable than you anticipated.
With the advent of so many dual career marriages, the division of domestic responsibilities has become a major source of marital conflict. Changes in our cultural values have contributed greatly to the problem, because there is more agreement that both a husband and wife should share these responsibilities, particularly child care. But change in behavior has not kept pace with the change in values. Traditionally, wives have assumed most household and child care responsibilities, while husbands have taken the responsibility of providing income for the family. When couples could afford it, housekeepers and nannies lived in the home to take the burden of those responsibilities off the shoulders of the wife. This is useful, just you need to add husband everywhere.
Sometimes people say that gay families seem to be not normal ones, but i suggest that they are wholly mistaken in that question, because we are as simple people as them, the thing that differs us is that we prefer men. Okay, moving to the question, yes there should be some divisions between every member of the family and there is nothing to be worry about, because all of us clean the house , like wash dishes,uses vacuum cleaner to do the rooms less dusty and all that stuff. So , you definitely to look over every duty in the house and divide, because otherwise you will quarrel.
I do not think that this is much easier to share the duties in the straight couples. Everything depends on the situation in the family and who you are. So, I think that you are just complicated person. What I mean, this must be much easier to share the duties. If you both work, just post the timetable who will make what and when.
What continually amazes me about the segregation of duties in the household is the role that our so-called"progressive" advertising agencies play in this.
I mean, how many cleaning product ads feature women looking pleased to be using the product and singing its praises? You could say that they are the target market; but you could also say, who is perpetuating that market?
Similarly, when men are shown to cook or clean it is seen as 'unusual' and the man either stuffs it up - and the woman has to come to the rescue - or it is seen as a Special Occassion where the 'hubby' is giving 'wifey' some 'time off'. Indeed, all of the roles of the participants in almost all ads are just plain stereotypical.
You may well argue that is because they are reflecting the makeup of families in our society, but I believe that they are a lot more influential in perpetuating those stereotypes by showing the nuclear family with specific 'wife duties' and 'husband chores' as if this is the Natural Order of things.
My partner is not great at sharing the duties. But, then again I suck at getting things done too. I'd rather sit outside with a book than dust or clean the bathroom. When we have a house showing he'll do a quick pass through the house but, other than that I do it or it doesn't get done. When I have him "clean" the kitchen after dinner all he does is put dishes in the dishwasher and, maybe, wash pots. No wiping the stove, counters or sinks. No straightening up, nothing else. So, I have basically told him that I'll clean up the kitchen too so it gets done half way decent lol.
Our house is tiny so, when I get fed up with the cob webs and dust I can clean it in just a few hours. Problem is.....it is SO dusty that within one day it looks like I never do it!
Not many of us “want” to work or “get things done.” But sometimes, as you say, we NEED to do it because of responsibilities, thus, sometimes the need presses in on you to the point where you “want” to get it done and out of the way. NOT getting it done presses in on you more than getting up the gumption to do it. It’s just another way of saying the same thing, or getting the same thing done and over with. Whatever it is… do what you can to “create a fair division of labor.” If that’s not possible, then do the best you can. That’s all. Don’t spend more energy on stressing over it than you have to. Get er done!
I think that there should be a division of household duties in every family. There should be a discussion concerning this topic, I think it is important to to what you like. For example, my partner enjoys cooking, it made no difference to me what to do so I accepted the suggestion to tidy up our flat. I suppose that such division of household duties depends on the family. When I lived with my parents the division of household duties turned out to be a real catastrophy, because my mother and a father were always quarelling about who would do these or those things. Such discussions should bring understanding of each other, but not stresses.
You know i don't think that there is a need to devide the duties between partners. one can do something this day and the other the tomorrow.
Or you can do everything together it even unitiespeople and partners. i hate stereotypes and think that there should be no division at all both in traditional couple and gay couple. Also you should together decide who will do today washing and who cooking or you can do it together. i like doing everything together. it makes your relations stronger and thus you can do a lot of things faster. I wish you good luck with it.
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