I think that division of duties is needless in real loving families. If people love, respect, and understand each other, there never will be the need for division of duties. If someone has got free time, he may wash dishes, and to prepare a diner. Another time, his partner can do it, when there will be free time in his schedule. Nothing difficult, guys.
Without dividing your duties you just can't deal with it-you can't do it all by yourself and vice versa.It's an important thing to remember-never let your household issues ruin your relationship,it's definitely not worth it.If you start to feel a slightest thing in that direction-then something is wrong,think about what it is and deal with it immediately.In our family it's all divided wisely,depending on what everybody wants and likes to do. :) I do most of the cleaning in the house,and Steven is a cooking genius,a true chef!So,it's alright in our family.
I believe that even traditional couples have problems with it. As for my parents, I may say that they always argued about the household chores, you know. Mum hated to do the washing up and dad didn't like washing dishes. Although as for me and my partner, we have sharp division of duties. And approximately in a week's term we exchange them. He does one thing I do another. At first we really had some tough argues, and some time later understood that this is a small thing. We could decide it and we did. Nowadays there are no problems as for household duties.
to my mind you definitely have to share all households duties as you could not live together normal. when we only have started living together we were not sharing our responsibilities and it was like nightmare. we could not live together normal. we have always quarreled and we had problems always. but when we have started sharing it then our life became very happy. i cook, he washes the dishes. it is normal. we have nevere quarreled about it, but is we so we try to find the compromise.
How to decide who should take out the garbage, and who - to wash the dishes? Home chores take up a lot of time, and do not put them on one person. It's better when everyone knows what they need to do around the house. So how do you distribute your household duties so everyone is happy? First you need to decide who and what you would like to do. Maybe your partner likes to cook, and for him it's not difficult. By the way, do not forget to compare all household duties in terms of complexity. Otherwise, it will be unfair if you agree to washing dishes, cooking and cleaning, and he will become the Boss of changing garbage bags. If one of the households gets tired at work, let him take on the housework that does not require special efforts. For example, walk with a dog.
Very interesting. What continually amazes me about the segregation of duties in the household is the role that our so-called"progressive" advertising agencies play in this.
I mean, how many cleaning product ads feature women looking pleased to be using the product and singing its praises? You could say that they are the target market; but you could also say, who is perpetuating that market?
Similarly, when men are shown to cook or clean it is seen as 'unusual' and the man either stuffs it up - and the woman has to come to the rescue - or it is seen as a Special Occassion where the 'hubby' is giving 'wifey' some 'time off'. Indeed, all of the roles of the participants in almost all ads are just plain stereotypical.
You know my partner is not great at sharing the duties. But, then again I suck at getting things done too. I'd rather sit outside with a book than dust or clean the bathroom. When we have a house showing he'll do a quick pass through the house but, other than that I do it or it doesn't get done.
When I have him "clean" the kitchen after dinner all he does is put dishes in the dishwasher and, maybe, wash pots. No wiping the stove, counters or sinks. No straightening up, nothing else. So, I have basically told him that I'll clean up the kitchen too so it gets done half way decent lol.
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