i don't thik that it is possible!
your love can't die only because you have a child now. your relaionships should become even stronger because you have new problems and you solve them together. of course you will pay much attention to the child but i think that you will find time for yourself too.
If you decide to have a child with a person in whom you are not totally sure or if it is a willing of only one of you to have a child, then of course it may be. But a child is not the one to blame in it. Relationships never break because of children, they break because their parents have different values in life and different plans for future. If you really love this person, if you are sure that you want to spend your life with him, if you can rely on him and he can rely on you, then why a child should spoil everything?! A child is a continuation of your love which will remain after you.
I know what it's like when feelings eventually shatter apart into pieces. I have tried talking to my husband about how I feel, but I haven't dared voice that I blame him, or resent him. I really think that would bitterly hurt him, and right now I simply couldn't cope with the emotional fallout that would generate. It's bad enough that he's already low and very far from his usual dynamic self. In fact, he's just a shadow of his usual self. He's quiet, hesitant, and is clearly just going through the motions of trying to appear normal, and engage with our family.
I think that it can happen, of course, that is why two people who love each other should take great pains to cope with all difficulties they will face. I have heard about a lot of such cases. My friends adopted an infant, they began to give all attention and love to their child and forgot about each other. Consequently, they began to have quarells because of different trifles, to misunderstand each other. All in all, it is neccessary to pay attention to your partner in any situations: spending romantic evenings together, having walks and making each other happy every day. It should be in this way, because children have the ability to grow and you will not be satisfied with your loneliness in future.
I am sure that real love never disappears, it only grows. and a common child is the best proof of love that the world have ever known. Common child will not separate you and your partner from each other, your child will make you closer. Of course, if only one parent cares about a child all the time and gets so tired that has no ability to pay attention to anything else around him , including the second half. it can break a family. But if you both take equal part in caring about your child and do not forget to remind each other about your love, then there is nothing to worry about.
Hans, such cases happen very often in our life, and this fact is very depressing one, as for me. If you want to preserve your love, and other warm feelings between you and your partner, you should spend time not only with your baby, but also with your loving spouse, and do it often enough.
It is areal danger,that can occur very soon after the adoption-it will be somebody else in your house,not just you two.And that somebody will require all your attention and love.Sure,at some point you might think and see,that you 're not that close now with your partner,as you used to be.You have to fight with this,in order to not make it a disaster off your relationship.You have to find every possibility for you two to be alone,spend as much time as you can tet-a tet-in your bedroom,go out or just sit and talk,when the baby's asleep. ;)
In my opinion real love never disappears, it only grows. and a common child is the best proof of love that the world have ever known. Common child will not separate you and your partner from each other, your child will make you closer. Of course, if only one parent cares about a child 24\7 and gets so tired that has no ability to pay attention to anything else around him , including the second half, it can break a family. But if you both take equal part in caring about your child and do not forget to remind each other about your love, then there is nothing to worry about.
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