Three years ago i made a come out to my parents and their reaction was not very surprising, because everybody is made from the same material and my father and mother want me to make grandchildren to them, but instead this , according to their words, i am making pleasure to other men. I literally explained them that i cannot reject that fact that i am fay and i really like that , i cannot stand when people judge me, because they have no ability to do that as my life is ,y life and i could do whatever i suggest ti good for me and i would stand on my side forever.
When I was younger, I was prone to really awkward situations where I'd slam the brakes on life and announce my sexuality to everyone. "You guys. I have to tell you something. I'm gay." Now that I'm a little older and more experienced, I've learned to be more subtle and casual. "Oh I love the coast, my boyfriend is from the coast" or "I need to leave work a little early today to pick up my boyfriend at the airport." etc etc etc.Creativity is always good and I think this falls into just being an interesting conversationalist in general. I always get into better conversations when I follow interesting trails in conversation and don't just jump to a a cliche or hit the breaks to announce orientation. When a new person crosses into subjects of love and dating, it's easy to get into that conversation trap where you just start focusing on the thing you want to say next instead of listening and following the natural flow.
I work in the company where people are very serious about the orientation , i mean they do not hate , but see nothing to respect if you are gay, do i have created a fake marriage to take the position that i have now, and now i have a pretty well paid work and i am happy, i have not told this to anybody.
I think that it is a question of a personal choice to tell the truth or not. First time when I understood that I am a gay I tried to hide the truth from my parents and friends, but then I understood that I should be honest with people. Of course, there was a sort of hesitation concerning the reaction of people, but my parents and friends accepted this fact with understanding. Actually we love people not for their orientation and accept them as they are. Now I prefer not to hide this fact about my orientation, some people respect it, but some treat it with disgust. All in all, I do not care that others may judge me, it is my life and I am happy.
You know I think that sexual preferences are a personal deal of each person and it is not necessary to tell about them to everyone.
I don't see the point in screaming out loud "I am gay" on every corner. Who cares? It is only my life and I am the one who chooses how to live it. If other people don't like me being gay, it is their problem, not mine. I am who I am and I will always be this way. I am not hiding it, my dearest people know that I am gay, but I still think that this information is not tbe told in a wide circle of strangers who don't care about me and the way I am :) :)
As for me, I belong to the talk truth positively. Opens need. But do not cry about it on the street and writing endlessly on yours page on the social networks. Do not open and the people that you are not sure a hundred percent. If you think the person you wish to tell about themselves, not fully honest with you, it is not necessary to conduct direct talks with him. And if it's a close friend who trusts you with their secrets, if he sincerely interested in your personal life, worried about you, then - yes! It can not cheat, he deserves to know the truth.I have friends who I told about myself. They are not so much happy, but I have full confidence. It was scary to admit, but it all ended well: I have listened to, understood. Maybe they do not agree with my position, perhaps, they are against it, but, more importantly, they are still with me, trust me, respected and valued. Remarkably, our friendship has not deteriorated and has become only stronger.
I prefer to be myself, and in most cases I tell people who are close to me truth about my sexual tastes. But sometimes it's too difficult for me to tell this to someone else. I think that our parents should know it. At the same time, we don't have to reveal this to everybody in this world.
Everybody need to tell tryth . I know very good remark about that : “An unbelieved truth can hurt a man much more than a lie. It takes great courage to back truth unacceptable to our times. There's a punishment for it, and it's usually crucifixion.”
As for me it's stupid to hide the thing that would become obvious sooner or later. I do agree it is very scary to say the truth and observe the reaction. And sure, some would start to look at you differently, with judgment, but what of it? You wouldn't change. It's settled. When I understood that I was gay there was nothing that could stop me being who I was. My friends were a bit shocked of course, but the fact I didn't have a girlfriend somehow made them think about my orientation even without saying it.
i do not see anything bad in it when someone knows that you are gay. i even think that it is very bad to hide form the people who are very close to you and who think that they are important for you. to my mind you have to persuade your friends not be scared or ashamed of that fact that he is gay. i think that he has to be proud of it but if he is not then you have to tell him why he has to be proud of it, he needs to realize all the advantages of being gay and that he likes it. i am sure that he will not be scared.
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