personally I think that it is impossible to be friends with you ex boyfriend. To tell the truth I don’t see any common sense in this. What for? You were together and maybe you were happy but suddenly or not suddenly you decide to break up. Alright, you decided so and broke up. Why do you think to be friends after? You were lovers, not friends for some time and it is impossible to forget everything that was between you. I think at first stages when there are some feeling after breaking up you can stay friends but this is not a friendship at all.
I can totally agree with the previous comment. I think the guy says right when talking that it is impossible to stay friends after a long period of relationships. Lovers can’t stay friends. I can say that after breaking up (when everything was because you both agreed to do so and none of you is offended) then first several weeks or month (depends on the person) there will exist some kind of friendship. You got used to spend time together, to do everything together and sometimes it is not so easy to stop everything at once. The time should past and as you might know time heals…
I agree that time heals and it is considered that time is the best healer. You know I can totally agree with this statement because I checked everything myself. I was with one guy for about two years. I thought that I loved him but as practice showed I just got used to him. It was very difficult to stop communication right after breaking up so we continued to communicate. To tell the truth it was painful to see him with other guys so I decided to stop any communication forever and to tell the truth everything became easier for me since that time.
Agree with you completely and your story is a great example when nothing good can happen from the friendship with your ex boyfriend. Yes it is very difficult to forget everything that happened with you together but it is the previous page of your life and now you need to go to the next one and communicating and being friends with your ex boyfriend doesn’t help you to this. You will never turn the page until break with you ex boyfriend forever. So stop this forever and turn the page. See the future and look back into the past.
I think it depends on how you broke up. I'm friends with one, not with the others. I understand the if you were friends first you can be friends after thing bUT something usually happens to ruin your friendship. And it also depends on your ex, if he wants to preserve friendly relations, you can do it, but if he refuses - then it is not possible. This question depends on many factors and there maybe cannot be a unique answer - you should take into accounts a lot of different factors during your relations.
I think that if you decide to be friends with your ex-boyfriend, you really have to forget everything that made bad for you during the relationship. Because friendship and to be together, love each other, sleep together - it is absolutely different things. In addition, perhaps you believe in destiny? I think that fate control us. And if this guy is bad in your relationship, he can be a great friend! Just try it at least once. Try to write to your ex, and offer him to be friends, and then you will see how it goes. It is our life. If you do not like something, you can always leave him.
I am sure that this is not a good idea. Especially when you both had a bad end. It makes me remember a lot of really bad things to my ex. So I do not want to have a friendship with my ex ever! We decided to leave each other. So now we have a different way. And we have to deal with it as we can do it! I really loved my ex. But I understand that if I come back to it with my emotions, it will bring me a lot more pain. So, it is better to stay away from each other in any way! And it will help me to quickly deal with the pain in my heart.
As for me I don't think that "friends" is an appropriate word in this case. Just because friends are friends and lovers are lovers. It is like you would drink your tea meanwhile eating a potato pretending that it is a cake because you don't want potato to be your main dish anymore . Ex lover can never be a real frien, but I still admire people who could avoid scandals, quarrels and blaming each other howewer it hurt them, especially in cases when they have common kids. There are ex partners, ex wives, ex husbands, but there are no ex parents, so it is important to keep normal relationships.
Hi guys) I call my friend bob the “Ex-Boyfriend Whisperer.” I call him this because no matter how bad any of his breakups have been, four months after the split, bob and his former beau have moved safely into the friend zone. This hasn’t happened just once or twice. A few fluke friendships can happen to anyone. I recently asked bob how many serious (more than three months was the cutoff) boyfriends he had, and how many of them he remained friends (in regular contact) with.
I want to say that it seems to me that this is impossible.
It is impossible to communicate and be friends after breaking up.Either love is not ended,or it will be .I believe that such friendships do not exist.Someone loves.
Sometimes it is possible. Nothing is impossible, I have seen such examples, when they remain friends after breaking and then they were friends, visiting each other with new families.
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