Four and a half years ago, I had sex on the first date with my now-boyfriend. Wait, I should clarify that: four and a half years ago, I slept with my now-boyfriend for the second time on our first date, having already slept with him the week before, after running into him at a party. He was the friend of a friend, and I had had a terrible crush on him for months, whiling away many an afternoon scrolling through his Facebook photos and mentally Photoshopping my own face into them. But in all that time, I had never spent a minute wondering if he would take me less seriously if I slept with him right away.Well, as the First-Date Sex-Haver-In-Chief, let me note this: shaming people about doing it on the first date is not feminist, not helpful, not cool, and is not even tied to the actual facts of sex and dating (all of which actually suggest that having sex on the first date doesn't undermine anyone's relationship potential).
No I have not but most times when he gets it on the first night it is no longer a challenge and most likely he lost respect for you! I mean a lot of people have a sexual chemistry but it does not mean that you need to have sex on the first date. A mean if you already have and are wondering if a serious relationship can happen from it...it is not unlikely but most times it just does not end up that way. Actually, I don't understand those people who have sex on the first date. I mean, intimacy is a good thing, but not on the first day of meeting. This aproach is utterly incomprehensible for me. I wouldn't do that ever.
I'm really not into sex on a first date since I appreciate sexual tension. I like to wait until a couple dates in and have (gently) turned down sex that soon. That's not to say other sexual activities haven't happened on a first date, I just haven't allowed it to go, "All the way." Personally, I just feel like it keeps up a better momentum of really wanting each other and I dig that. Any time I've had sex for the first time using this method, it's been awesome and passionate. If I just want to get laid, that's where bars and one night stands come in, but that quality of sex has been a step below.
You must always ask the question to yourself: What do you really want ? What is behind your desire for intimacy ? Never have sex because of fear of losing the guy - it's the shortest way to brake up . Men can feel your fears , your dependence , their power on you - and lose interest for you .It is very important how you behave after sex . No need to wait for love confessions and certainty of the man . Turn off standby mode in your brain and switch to the other interests in your life. If the man Shows the man activity, insists on continuing the relationship - wonderful! Do not hurry to call you - do not sit and wait for his call ! See how he behave to you and copy his behavior . I wish you good luck and be careful.
I have had such experience, but I had it with a person whom I knew before it, but not in real life, I knew him from the Internet, and telephone communication, so I don't think that it is a stranger one. If you feel that you want to do it, then you should listen to your heart, and your inner desire.
Honestly I also have never had such an experience. And it is not because I am too correct, so to say. It is just because I can not do it when I do not know a person quite well in order to devote him my health. I need to be sure about the man, either we have at least something in common, or not. Are we on the same level of affection. Do I attract him and vice verse. Somehow I believe that sex is very intimate and to do it with every man, whom you do not even like much is not normal. At least for me, it is not normal.
If you feel something deep inside you,something that is good and positive (and vibrating),when you see somebody for the first time-you'll know immediately,that's the right type of man for you and this all situation might lead to something beautiful right away.That's a wonderful feeling,and if you trust yourself enough-go with it.I've had such situations in my life two or three times and there's nothing wrong in that.It doesn't matter if that person will stay for long in your life or leave right away-live that beautiful moment,if you dare. ;)
yes i think that sex on the first date is perfect. you do not know the person and you do not care about anything. you can be sure that he wont tell anyone that you are bad in bed for example. you do not have to satisfy this person, because there is a big chance that you wont see him anymore in your life. it is really so. i used tohave it so often that i do not even now many strangers i have had sex with. really lots. when i attended night clubs i used to have sex always with someone. it was very simple to find someone suitable for you, and i managed to find always very handsome guys. i think that it is success.
I also have never had such an experience. And it is not because I am too correct, so to say. It is just because I can not do it when I do not know a person quite well in order to devote him my health.
I need to be sure about the man, either we have at least something in common, or not. Are we on the same level of affection. Do I attract him and vice verse. Somehow I believe that sex is very intimate and to do it with every man, whom you do not even like much is not normal. At least for me, it is not normal.
Because 9 chances out of 10 the people who do have sex on the first date are the ones who find each other physically attractive but emotionally they sucked...so....why waste a good meal. Is it for everyone? No, and that's their perogative.
So long as you're safe and both parties are on the same page, it's all good.That is the bad part that people associate with sex on the first date. They put out thinking their gonna get a call back because they put out. And then they get their feelings hurt like that pathetic waste of a character in the moive' He's Just Not That Into You' (By far, horrible breeder movie!).I don't think there should be a set x amount of dates before one has sex. Everybody is different and when you put two people together it makes the situation unique. It should be bassed on that particular couple and when 'they' feel they're ready.
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