In my opinion if your child continues to struggle or feel less than confident in their friend-making skills, be proactive in organizing play dates for kids. “After-school play dates can support socialization in many ways,social practice in an environment that may feel more forgiving than school,” says Boroson. “Socializing can be much easier in one-on-one situations … and the greatest potential benefit is the creation of a shared experience, a bond that the two children can then build on at school.” Likewise, a shared bond between your child and another child can be formed through choosing enjoyable after-school and extracurricular activities.
Parents need to support their child) Everybody has negative emotions and selfish impulses. But to make friends, we need to keep these responses under control. Studies of Western kids suggest that children develop better emotional self-control when their parents talk to them about their feelings in a sympathetic, problem-solving way.
In 1-5 years, children simply repeat one after the other words and actions - both bad and good. At this age there are no friends, there are "neighbors along the sandbox", from which the little one copies everything. The best response of parents to this situation is a quiet explanation to the child of simple truths about "good and bad". At such a young age, copying each other, a pretty "parakeet" - a natural process, but requiring a soft and confident parental hand.At 5-7 years old, a child seeks only friends for himself with one clear criteria. Inveterate oboltus can choose for himself in comrades shy quiet, and a modest and quiet girl - screaming and unbalanced hooligans. Usually in such friendship, children compensate for their weaknesses, balancing each other. You can not influence friends anymore, but now is the time - to watch your child, to understand - who he is in friendship, leader or slave, amenable to influence from the outside. And having drawn conclusions, act.
The child is more likely to contact peers in order to acquire the skills of successful communication. To do this, try to give the child the opportunity to communicate with other children: organize a children's holiday or allow him to invite peers to his home and go to visit himself. If you have an adult event and your friends came to visit, do not send the child to your room. Communication with adults will help him to gain important experience and feel more confident. Gradually expand the social circle of the child. For example, invite him to attend a sports club or art studio. Common interests and hobbies bring children together - the child himself will want to spend more time with them.
Place for chatting and discussion of important questions, place where you can share your stories and experience, to find friends and to become friend for someone.