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Pablo
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I told you that my partner is persistent about having a child. From the one hand I feel it is a good idea, but from the other hand I am afraid of such changes in my life. I do not know what to do- how to cope my fears. and I do not want to loose my partner.

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Armando
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think at first you should to calm down. just seat and think everything over for yourself are you really ready for that or not.Give yourself time for thinking and ask your partner not to make pressure at you. Don't panic!)

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Cock
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If your partner is not ready for such a high pace ,don't rush things.Then you need to wait if you love your partner and want with him common children.While he is not morally ready,it is better not to go for such a risky move

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Don Adriano
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Maybe you don't ready to be father? If you feel that don't ready you should not force yourself. Maybe you need some more time to get used to the idea of parenting. don't hurry up, be sure then do

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Black
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[quote="Cock" post=556]If your partner is not ready for such a high pace ,don't rush things.Then you need to wait if you love your partner and want with him common children.While he is not morally ready,it is better not to go for such a risky move[/quote]
Oh, it is what you would better tell to my partner, because it is he who wants to have children right now and do not want to wait and give me chance to prepare myself. He is in hurry, and it scare me even more.

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Black
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[quote="Don Adriano" post=575]Maybe you don't ready to be father? If you feel that don't ready you should not force yourself. Maybe you need some more time to get used to the idea of parenting. don't hurry up, be sure then do[/quote]
Maybe you are right and I am not ready, or I would just agree with my partner's pressure and start the procedure of adopting or surrogacy. But I have fears and doubts. I never said I do not want to be a father at all, but my heart says it is early now...

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Pablo
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We have an opposite situation in our family, when my partner has doubts and I really want to become a father. I understand you and I understand your partner. It is not an easy thing, but I also understand that these questions are serious and desire should be mutual, it is not right to make any pressure. Nothing except talks, discussing and being patient can help.

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Black
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[quote="Kenny" post=686]We have an opposite situation in our family, when my partner has doubts and I really want to become a father. I understand you and I understand your partner. It is not an easy thing, but I also understand that these questions are serious and desire should be mutual, it is not right to make any pressure. Nothing except talks, discussing and being patient can help.[/quote]

Thank you for understanding even being not on my place. I agree with you that pressure will not help, but my partner does not understand it. It scares me more

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Pablo
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You do not regret the idea of having a child in general. You just need some time, so it is not so bad for your partner. He should learn patience and I am sure you will be fine :)

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Pablo
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[quote="Pablo" post=688]You do not regret the idea of having a child in general. You just need some time, so it is not so bad for your partner. He should learn patience and I am sure you will be fine :)[/quote]

Sure, I want to become a father but I am 26 and I think it is early for me, because I take it serious, I want to enjoy parentship, but not just agree with my partner and see what happened. He is 38, so I understand him too, I am sure I would also feel impatient in his age, but still I want him to understand me too.

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Pablo
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Oh, it is a question when age difference can cause problems for relationships. I hope you will find a compromise and it will not ruine your good attitude to each other. Understanding is very important and it is impossible to get only what you want and only when you want.

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