Do not make anything you do not want, even if your partner asks you. Talk to him and ask for more time, try to calm down and think clearly, the same for him. I am sure you will solve this misunderstanding and find a compromise.
Thank you for your advices and support. it is really important for me and I so hope everything will be fine, because I value our relationships and feel sad they are spoiled now.
You have to cope with your fear. You have to think that scares you the most? I mean, you have to find the cause of your fear. Also, try to read on the Internet more than the children. And you'll see that it's not scary. this is normal! In addition, you can find lots of information about what you should do with children. You should know how you can cope with the child and what steps you have to do this. So, I see no problem with this completely. In addition, you should think very well, maybe you just do not want to have a baby? This is problem? :)
Try to use the help of a psychologist for you. He will explain to you the cause of your fear, and you will cope with this. Very often to get rid of our fear, we need to understand the reason. And when we begin to understand the reason for our fear, it becomes slightly! And we understand that our fear - it is really stupid thing! So, I advise you to come to a psychologist and solve your problem. Because it's really serious. And if you do not solve this problem, you can lose your partner very soon! So you have to deal with this! I believe in you! :cheer:
did you ask yourself what you afraid for? Ask yourself concrete question and give yourself truthful answers. Write this answers and questions on the sheet of paper. It is important to be honest with yourself. In such way you will see everything by your own eyes. It helps to decide problem because till the moment we don't see your fears on our own eyes, we can't understand them and make a plan of actions because somewhere is our heart are not so determined as on the paper :)
Each time fears are embraced, it makes them easier to cope with the next time they strike, until in the end they are no longer a problem. Try imagining the worst thing that can happen – perhaps it's panicking and having a heart attack. Then try to think yourself into having a heart attack. It's just not possible. The fear will run away the more you chase it. Fears tend to be much worse than reality. Often, people who have been attacked can't help thinking they're going to be attacked again every time they walk down a dark alley. But the chance that an attack will happen again is actually very low. Similarly, people sometimes tell themselves they're a failure because they blush when they feel self-conscious. This then makes them more upset. But blushing in stressful situations is normal. By remembering this, the anxiety goes away.
Children this is the biggest happiness in our lives. I do not have a partner with whom I could be able to have a child, however I think that you need firstly to understand whether you want it or not. May be your fear goes from the unwillingness having a child. How old are you? May be it is just too early for you. I was trying to prepare yourself for this with my ex. After he ha left me, I feel that I am ready to have a child and I think that I was not ready to create the real family with that person. May be your problem is in this? I agree that this is a and question, overthink everything.
Right now, making such an important decision, you should not look at your partner. I don't mean that you should ignore his desire to have children. But he has already decided for himself that he is ready for parenting, and you haven't. Ask yourself and only yourself whether you really want a child to appear in your life and to turn it 180 degrees around. The question is simle - is that what yyou want? And if after some thinking (not immediately) you give yourself a positive answer, then all the fears will be possible to overcome
I don’t think that there is a need to have some fears. Di you say your partner about this or he doesn’t care about what you think about this. If he cares and you agreed about everything I don’t see any reason to have some fears. You have good boyfriend who is willing to become father. He did everything to prepare for this serious step. I think it is great that you have serious partner with serious intentions that want to make your family full. To tell the truth I am not ready to become a parent now but I am sure that things would be different if I had a partner with serious intentions. So you are lucky.
dont be afraid of it. it is not something that will hurt you or change your life to the worse. you will feel yourself as the happiest person in the world and it would be true. children bring to us more live and care , they are like little sunny creaters who inspire us to do unbelievable things. of course it is not easy at all and you have to understand all the seriousness of this. if you are feeling that you are readyy to be responsible for the child then do it without any doubts.
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