Parental responsibility. The man is afraid of not cope banal. Who does not want to raise a son or daughter is a good person? And if we can not make our children a good person? I think your man just has to think that children are the most important thing in our life. He should understand that without the kids we just have no meaning in this world. Our children will remember us. It is most important. And if he does not want to have children, who will help him in his old age? I think that your partner just needs to think about many things in our life.
Let's start with an open motivation. This, as you may have guessed, the direct talks. The main thing here is not to emphasize immediately. You should never speak bluntly plain truth, find a way to get around all the sharp edges of its replica and say what you want, as if it is not particularly important. I think that if you try to gradually talk to your partner about the child and that it will bring to your family, it can help him to understand the right things. I also think that your partner just needs the right motivation and incentive to become a father.
Man considers himself too young. A man may be 20 years, and 30, but it feels young, wants to spend free time in bars with friends, fishing or at the disco, but do not have a cot. He understands that with the advent of the baby carefree gatherings with friends recede into the past, especially if friends yet unmarried and childless. But you have to convince him that he will have enough time to rest and relax. That can only be a little bit difficult in the first year, when you've got a child. But then everything will become easier. The main thing have desire for it all. In addition, it is a completely different world for both of you.
Maybe your man heard about the difficulties of life with children. If the majority of men friends "burdened" the children, and he longingly listen to their stories about the "hard" life, it may discourage him from becoming a father. Meeting with friends, he learns about the nightly vigils, teething, decanting, colic and other "charms". He thinks with relief: "Thank God it did not happen to me", and as long as possible trying to postpone this moment. I think the best thing you can do is support him, and to say that together you will be able to cope with any difficulties in the upbringing of your child.
The man is not ready financially. If a man does not feel entirely confident in the material plane, the prospect of working for "three" does not suit him. If it is peculiar to a responsible approach, it is quite reasonable aware that first you need to earn, for example, for an apartment. Knowing that now, instead of a new home theater system will need to buy a carriage, and assuming that the monthly purchase of diapers have been given a tangible gap in the budget, he again tries to delay this happy moment until better times. Perhaps you should address this question first, if it is really a problem in finance?
The man is still too childish. This is when a man does not imagine what the kids and did not even want to think about it. I think that such situations also occur. But then you have to talk to your man a lot of children. You must every day to talk to him about what you want and have child. And you have to convince him that a full-fledged family must have children. This is our nature. And if he does not want to have a child with you, maybe you will try to find someone who is really serious about you. I think that this is also a motivation.
Start talking about children who resemble their fathers mention the happy family: "What lovely boys grow from David Beckham!". More often go to visit a friend, where the beloved and longed educate children and parents happy and not tortured problems. Then he will understand that child - it's not a universal catastrophe, and joy and love. I think it is very important for your partner to understand that children do not carry any threat to him or his family. They will bring a lot of positive emotions. He should not be afraid to have children anyway.
Talk directly. Yeah, just say, "Honey, I want to have children." Men in most cases have little understanding of hints. I think this is one of the best ways to solve this problem. First of all, you must understand that many men can also pretend to be stupid. In any case, I think that these problems should be addressed directly. When you are talking about the problem face to face with your partner, it will have much less choice to avoid this issue once and just pull the time. Therefore, I advise you not to waste your time, just talk to him about it.
Prove that you love him. A man may often find that you throw him. After all, the question of paternity for the stronger sex is very serious. So that the man did not think and did not worry that you leave him, to prove to him in practice that you love him. Then it will flash the thought: "Yes, I want to have children with this man." I think that many of us may have some doubts about these issues from time to time. But we must understand that children will make our lives better in any case. And we must not lose time during our ordinary doubt in something.
As for me you can use many different ways to do this. For example, you can show him all happy families with children. And you'll show him this, that he should not worry about anything! He should be calm. and all will be well! Perhaps he is afraid to get too much responsibility. All this happens from time to time. Furthermore, we man. For us it is much more difficult than for women. But in any case, we can be better parents to our children! So you have to try anyway! Home shows that all is normal. And many people have children. They cope with them is always very good!There is some ind of biological clock and when it will be his time to become a dad he will. Your words are just in vain. It is serious step to become parents and I suggest you to wait or to find the one who is ready already.
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