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Pablo
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I love somebody who's in love with somebody else

It is terrible to love someone who is in love already with someone else. It is lasting for almost a year. my close friend is madly in love with a guy, and he is his turn loves a straight man. His beloved has good relationships with that guy. He told him clearly that he's straight and will never return his feelings. And I don’t understand what he is waiting for while communicating with this straight guy. My friend have been giving him so much attention. he is ready for serious, loving relationships with him. But unfortunately he's always treating him so rude, he always tells me that he's in love with other man and doesn't need him. My friend told him yhat he is ready to do anything for him, and do you know what answer I received? - "if anything, then start with leaving me alone". I don’t know what to do and how to help my close friend.

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Pablo
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I love somebody who's in love with somebody else

Maybe it is really needed to leave him alone for some time? he has right to choose what and who he needs more and itis his choice and your friend should to respect this choice even if it is not the best one choice for him. Maybe when he will see that his friend left him he will understand whom he lost and will be more polite with him and will understand that he will receive nothing with this straight man.Think your friend should show himself from the other side, not like bothering guy but like understandable and supportive one.

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Pablo
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You friend shouldn't let him to behave like that. He should respect himself, and force him to respect him and his feelings. How he can love the one who is so rude with him? even if you don't want to be with this person it doesn't mean you should be rude with him. This guy should be honest (and it is true) but together with it he should be polite. I understand it is hard but what if he just loose time while trying to show this guy how good he is. sometimes we meet people who doesn't need our love and care and we should be ready to let these people go.

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Pablo
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Maybe some other guy loves your close friend while he loves this rude guy while he loves the straight one. Difficult scheme as for me and if if were your friend I go out from this triangle because I think that it is too difficult from moral side and it is not worth to stay in such condition for a long time. Maybe there are some other people around him who are also not indifferent to him. Your friend shouldn't try to open the eyes of this guy, he should just open his eyes and maybe he will see something which will surprise him a lot.

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Pablo
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i asked him just to leave him and to forget about this guy, to start life from the very beginning, to start from the new page. Sometimes it happens like this but it is not the end and it is needed to move further. But he told me Tha he doesn't want to see another guy by his side, that he needs him and I he can does nothing with it. He sees himself only with this guy in future. He wants them to be a real family and maybe even to have a child, to create full and happy family. It would be great to be good full family. It is his biggest dream ever.

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Pablo
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It is his problem that he doesn't want to see other guys around him. Love is blind and we know that. think all of us have such situation when we like someone and didn't pay attention to the words of other people. Advice him just to give himself some time and don't communicate with this guy and with time he will see that in a months he will feel himself in completely another way. Time cures and gives new abilities and new life. Of course it is hard at first but than everything will be all right.

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Pablo
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I agree that it is needed to leave him for some time. He sees your friend every day and he tells him that he loves him and this guy knows that your friend will not leave him that is why he behaves like this because he feels that he is the only one in your friend's life. it is needed just to show him another side of the situation. It is not important to find someone else or just to be alone for a while, have fun with friends, have a rest, watch films and read books, such relations brought your friend a lot of pain but it is not normal to live in pain all the time. Recommend your friend to leave him, it is not worth to continue.

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Pablo
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When person doesn’t want to be with someone else he will not be and it is impossible to force someone to be by one side with a person he doesn't like or doesn't love. It is hard to force someone to have feelings to someone when he doesn’t have such feelings.It is impossible and it is important to realize it. recommend your friend just to live in real life and to be a realist. That straight guy does the same with him what he does withhis friend, so somehow his friend is in the same situation. He should just let him go.

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Pablo
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You are right, I have never thought that this guy is probably in the same situation but he is in this situation not because person doesn't love him but because person has another sexual orientation and he should understand that he is not able to change what nature gave to this straight guy. It is a bit different things but the result is one and the same in both situations. I told my friend a lot of arguments why hi should leave this guy and to start new life but it seems to me that he doesn't hear me and slightly realize what is happening around him.

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Don Adriano
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if person say directly "go away, leave me alone" i think that your friend should really think over these words, and understand at least the his partner does not love him any more, your friends should leave him and move on. nobody can love other person through forse

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Fabio
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I understand what you feel because I am going through the same. It is very hard and painful and the only advice which can be given in uch situation is to forget and to let go. But this advice is not helpful, it is useless because it is easy to say "forget" ( we are smart enough to understand by ourselves that we need to forget) but nobody has ever known how to forget the one who stole your mind and soul. The only thing I can say that I am really sorry about your situation. But don't lose hope and may be someday he will understand everything. Hold on and good luck

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