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Mark
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Imagining someone else

Have you ever imagined someone else when you were together with your partner? No matter is it an actor or a rock star, neighboor or your ex lover.
Have you had such a fantasy or you were always thinking about your partner only?

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Mark
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Imagining someone else

No, I have never imagined someone else during my relationships with my partner. he is enough attractive and sexy for me so I do not need someone else in my bed even in my dreams and head. But I imagined us being somewhere, not at home, yes, so I use imagination from time to time, but not in such case you asked.

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Don
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Imagining someone else

Yes, it happened to me several times and I did not do it on purpose, but my mind gave me such pictures and I could not avoid them, but it was not with someone special, not with a regular partner, but with someone I do not have serious feeling to.

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Mark
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No, I have never had anything like this. I do not imagine anything else at all while I have sex with someone. I just enjoy the moment and everything we share together, and it is enough for me, I do not need extra fantasy to find out.

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Mark
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I do not remember such situations during my life, not just with my beloved partner. Maybe I was always too excited with partners I had, so I did not need to imagine anyone else. I never thought about something like that.

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Billy-Bob
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have no such a habit. in the process of sex i used not to think at all. imagining somebody else take my mind and i'm not having a sex but imagining a sex, so i think it's not right because you take away enjoyment from yourself

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Mark
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Yeah,shame on me,but once I imained my ex-boyfriend.It was awful,don't know what it was with me .I guess I already disliked the guy,with whom I have had sex at that time,because when you love a person-you don't imagine someone

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Mark
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Imagining someone else

There is a limit. You must NOT flirt with anyone except your friend. Thinking about stuff is one thing, but actually saying things is another. Keep your thoughts to yourself when you see other than your friend. It is normal to be attracted to more than one person, but you should only say sexy things to your boy.Also, why would you imagine other when you both are being sexual? I bet you would feel hurt if your friend was being flirty with guys and thinking about them during YOUR time, wouldn't you?

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Mark
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as i usually have different sexual partners i do not have such a need to imagine somebody else. i think people need this when have constant partner for many years and their sex become a routine, so they try to varify it some how but do not want to offend the partner. people, who live in my lifestyle do not have such problems in sex

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Mark
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Imagining someone else

Let's take the first issue on its own. When I see couples in couples therapy, the couple often deals with jealousy issues. I explain to each member of the couple that no one person is going to meet every need the other has, sexual or otherwise. I encourage the couples to learn to allow each to remain an individual inside the relationship, and accepting that your partner may fantasize about others can be very healthy. The second issue, I think, is more complicated. Certainly no man or woman wants to be in the middle of an intimate moment and wonder whether their partner is actually picturing someone else in the moment. After a couple has been together many years, it's natural for each member to have a fantasy about being with someone else.However, it's not natural to have this fantasy while you are in the act with your partner on a regular basis.

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Mark
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Ok I tried to once but all I could see was this guys jacket and I thought that is so lame it's not even worth it, besides I felt more guilty than anything, oh actually there was another time as well but I was trying to think of this person for ages and it just wasn't happening so I thought maybe I shouldn't be doing that then. I told my partner afterwards though, both times, I apologised I just wasn't sure if it was normal or not bcos u read about it in magazines that it's normal but for me it just felt wrong, I would never do it again.

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