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John
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My orientation and work

Hello! :) A couple of years ago I finally accepted the fact that I'm gay. Gradually began to talk about the friends with whom I was very lucky, because none of them until I was sent to hell because of my orientation.But there was another issue. Should I come out of the closet at work? I don't quite understand: if my desire to open up to their colleagues by their desire to live open lives; or out of a desire to attract attention. Please share the experience. Should i tell about my experience at work and its consequences. Was it worth or not????

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John
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My orientation and work

If you don't know these people well, if you cannot call them your friends, then my advice to you will be not to tell them anything. And not because you are unable to predict their reaction on your words (but if it is really important to you how they will react and you are araid of their reaction, then it is one more reason not to tell anything), but because private life is private life and work is work, there is no need in discussing your private life at work. You don't tell your partner about giving year accounts or making business deals, do you?

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Aaron
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My orientation and work

I work in a big office. Somebody knows, somebody doesn't. But as they say if there are more then 2 know, everybody know. Somebody ok with my orientation and their relation toward me is fine and they don't make accent about this. But of course there are people who change their relation when they know, somebody judge, somebody just ignore. My boss is from those who don't care about orientation, he evaluates my work but not my personal life.

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John
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Advice to the asker. For the time being, you're going to have to remain in the closet because to do otherwise might be dangerous. You're going to have to become an excellent actor. In the meantime, try to get in touch with the nearest PFLAG (parents and friends of lesbians and gays) chapter as they will have resources to help you.
Good luck

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Fabio
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Either hiding your orientation from your colleagues or telling about it out loud and discussing it openly is dangerous for youYou should not hide anything being panicly afraid that somebody will find out the truth, it seems very suspicious and your colleagues may suspect something much more terrible and dangerous than homosexuality. But on the other hand if you attract their attention saying 'look at me, I am gay!" without knowing whether they are gay friendly or not may lead to terrible consequences, so be careful saying the personal information

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John
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I have no work, but my partner in the director of big company and there is big club of homophobic people. When those guys asked my boyfriend what did he think about those :freaks:, the direct name that they said , my partner was not angry, but he answered in a polite way that they have no ability to judge these people, because they have different interests and they definitely do not know why they are gays or lesbians. He wanted even to say that he is in love with a boy, but thought that this would be kinda unnecessary information, so people are different.

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John
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It depends on the work that you have. If your colleagues are normal and they are like your second family - you have to share with them, as they will find out it, anyway. But if you have another type of relations at work, you have to shut your mouth. I think that your private life and your orientation is the private case and no one, except your family and friends should be aware of the details. Whatever whom you sleep with and whom you love - this is your own business, and you should not take care about their lives too. This is the work, this is not the friendship zone.

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John
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I am sure that I will never open my true sexual orientation to the colleagues or boss. I am sure for one hundred per cent that not all of them treat gays in a good way. There will be people that will offend me in the future. So it is better for them not to know about the orientation.

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Funnybunny
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I will not advise you to open your orientation to everybody at work you never know what other people that surround you think about nontraditional orientation and people who have it. Maybe your colleges and especially your both are against gays and they are afraid to let them to the team. So you can be easily fired and what will you do next? I don’t think if you have good position and salary at you current working place it is worth of doing. You can of course try to get to know about the opinion of ther and then decide for yourself if it is really worth to open your nature.

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John
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I also think that it is not worth of saying that you are gay at your work because you are not sure about the reaction. It can be both good and bad and of course it is better that the reaction was good but the percentage that it will be bad is higher than it will be good. If you want to risk and there is nothing to loose than of course you can say. But if it not so important for you than it is better not to risk and work as you worked before. Personally I am afraid of the fact I will say anyone whose attitude toward people with nontraditional orientation I don’t know for sure that I am gay.

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John
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Oh,guys,you must know that all my life I was worried about this. Five years ago I have got a great job and I didn't want to loose it. But I knew that not everyone will understand me and my life. Many people are not ready for this even nowdays. That is why I did not tell the true at my work. Maybe once I'll tell to them my small secret ... or not ;)

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