In the early stages of love relationships you so want to be with someone every second - to see him and enjoy every move, listening to his compliments and give him compliments in return. Even at night, let your relationship and did not reach the intimate stage, you still want to see a loved one. Is it love, or perhaps addiction - does not matter. The important thing - the person must be close to you, otherwise you start to feel uncomfortable, you do not want to do. Even if you previously slept tightly, without you dear man, you can not sleep. But we just get tired with time from it all. Therefore each of us should have a bit of free space.
Time passes, and with time, grow and your relationship. You decide to get married, have a child and live together. As different plans. That's just you feel that your relationship is not as warm and hot as before. If a couple of years ago you could not breathe without each other, but now no longer feel a sudden need. Yes, you have common interests, you are well together, but every minute you have with each other is no longer spend. Your partner increasingly have the desire to be alone or to meet with friends, and you do not mind to spend leisure time individually. I think it's completely normal things.
All is good, but the men have their "sins". Some of them, zealously defending their own right to have a private space, infringe their beloved in this law. They do not allow him to meet with friends, to be alone with him, and so as to be afraid of the likely betrayal by his partner. In addition, most of the men are the owners and want to be a man was only with him. The result of such action displeases guys and comply with the requirements of equality. Unfortunately, often it is the lack of personal space of one of the partners is the cause of the break in relations.
The human need for personal space as versatile as his need for recognition, respect, communication and love. Some of this demand is expressed more clearly, and someone - less, but the fact remains - there is such a need, and people will sooner or later try to satisfy it. Why is it so necessary to man? Just to not go crazy from the monotony of life, and do not lose their human appearance. A person should feel that he has his own territory, which is completely under his control. In this area are not allowed to go no one - not even the closest people.
Sooner or later, one partner gets tired of relationships that are closed on one another. He or she tries to escape to the previous hobbies - work, friends, hobbies. Problems begin to arise in that half, which was not able to switch to a part of life. Unable to find a passion for - the shower when the other has already done so, a person begins to take offense, to seek reasons for discord, to attract a mate back. Attempts to manipulate their partner, because it seems that she has betrayed. All this can lead to misunderstandings, quarrels, alienation, and then the inevitable ending relationships. So much better to agree in advance on the personal space in your relationship.
Constant invasion of personal space is causing more and more emotional pain, while another person considers an insult to what he is deprived of what he already considers his. To understand this is very difficult and often we sacrifice their psychological comfort, but not to create a conflict. Perhaps you do not believe that right. We tolerate what is causing discomfort, pain, only out of fear of rejection, guilt. The longer this goes on, the harder it is to get out of this situation unscathed. I think that all couples should have enough personal space for each of them to have a really good relationship for a long time.
We let go on our spiritual territory and we think that we keep these relations, moving away from conflict. We put the feelings of others before their own, and are not aware of how to make ourselves mental disability, and deprive themselves of the opportunity to build a genuine, close, trusting relationship, speeding happiness. Recognize and maintain their personal boundaries, to take care of themselves, their emotional health, understand that they are willing to give to another person, without feeling used and what are not prepared, under any circumstances, it is necessary things for the psychological health and harmonious relationships.
If in your relationships you have no personal space, you sacrifice yourself, let overstep yourself, your boundaries again and again, just so as not to cause discontent, and the other person believes it is the norm, you only maintain the illusion of relationship, a shell that crumble, it is worth to you stop breaking you and adapt. In a healthy relationship, you should be able to be myself every minute, without fear of rejection. Your loved one needs to see you, not the image that he came up with for himself and you must comply. But in any case, the personal space is really useful.
It is said that love - is selfishness together ... and manifests egoism is very, very bright, first you donate small - series favorite series or reading fascinated you book, so devote more time to the favorite, and then prepared to exchange an appointment with her friends to a meeting with the object of adoration ... and then rush to it on the first call, at any time of day or night, smashing all obstacles in its path. And every year relationship in the treasury of the time "for it" migrates more and more time from the piggy bank of time "for themselves and friends." And it continues as long as it's not limited to the ratio of 24 hours: 0 am in favor of your man.
Most warm and close relations can not quench the thirst of man in his personal space. You will surely feel the discomfort that causes a crowd of people in the subway, pushing you from every angle. So broken our sacred space. In common life we are looking for privacy and a breath of free air, but often the opposite happens. The stereotype of "everyone, everywhere to do with" very firmly seated in the minds of many. Each of us needs a personal space, as air. It really is a must if you want to live together for a long time. In addition, it will help to keep a really good relationship.
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