Afraid to hurt a loved one, we are trying to endure a long time, except for this problem. However, further internal discontent is growing and could lead to serious conflict. The invasion of the territory of the soul of each person is already on the subconscious level, it leads to inner protest. In the future, trying to avoid conflict, we deprive relations opportunity to achieve harmony. I think the best way to avoid all these problems - just to talk about things that you both need your relationship. If you need personal space, you can just ask your partner about it. And I think that this should not be a problem.
Do not step over themselves, and do not sacrifice personal space. Remember, this is a strategic reserve, which will allow you to be yourself in any situation. When we love, we always look for individuality in the elect, those special features that distinguish it from others. The ability to save personal space will not allow to squander individuality and become a featureless shell. Your partner must understand that you can not share all your time alone with him. In addition, it may also need personal space or a little free time on your relationship. Each of us wants to be able to do the things he wants, within reason of course.
Healthy relationships are always suggest the possibility of each partner to engage in favorite things, and spend some time with no spousal support. True love - this is not a cocoon, which gets people starting a life together. You can not be all things in common just because you love each other. Love - means to understand and respect both people and its interests. If both of you properly understand all of these things, you'll have a really happy life together. In addition, both of you will not feel your life is some limitation. And you'll be happy to spend time together.
Your husband loves to play football or computer games, or maybe it is a pleasure just to communicate with friends? Do not limit it to this, because you also value your freedom of minutes reading books or talking in a café ?! Many couples dream to carry through life strong and harmonious relationship. In order to come to them, it is important to leave each partner the right to a personal social circle, self-realization and just being able to be themselves. Continuous monitoring and restrictions are killed in a relationship the most valuable thing - a sense of reverent admiration for each other, which is possible only if the preservation of personal space.
Have you noticed that if someone comes to you too close, you start to feel uncomfortable. Yes there uncomfortable sensations develop until the panic. I want to move away, isolate themselves, and may even give a tear. The fact is that your opponent has broken the boundaries of your personal space. Invading your limits. Of course, the mind immediately begins to give signals «SOS». I do not want to talk about the general situation. But it's no secret, when partners spend too much time together - it's starting to annoy them both over time.
If very briefly, the private space - this is the place where it is not necessary to enter without knocking, even being with someone in a relationship. Even if the door is ajar. Even if you believe that the spouses can not be any secrets, anyway, anyone in a relationship has the right to personal space. Psychologists have long established that the relationship to keep their distance is much more important and necessary than in communion with those who have nothing to do with your family. Marriage does not mean a very frankly, that's why is called the limit, as it has its limits, your limit.
Respect the right to personal space of each other - one of the most important rules of marriage. Skeptics argue that the family boat breaks up on life, not forgetting to add that the marriage can kill the love in a relationship. Only in this way, and not otherwise. Many couples do diverge, without ceasing to love one another. Such spouses usually end up in a situation where, and without each other bad, and together intolerable. They were married by a great and passionate love. They did not have a large financial or domestic problems. But they did not and stayed three years in a relationship, how to split up. Similar things happen when we do not have enough personal space.
And every family has and "their topics" for conversation, but unites us all is that from now on we consider the feelings and thoughts of a partner, his personal space, our property, and not the innermost area. We do not want and we understand that "not allowed" us to, make to keep their distance, not from what we do not like or could not find a place there, and not to lose in the relations own "I". If the right to personal space in relationships violate, intentionally or unintentionally, it causes irritation in humans at first, and then the desire to protect, "strengthen" and, eventually, in general, "isolate" your personal space from the external stimulus, to keep a distance with him.
Each of us intuitively understand what you need to keep your distance, the difference between the legitimate right to personal space and permissiveness and feel where one ends and another begins. What are the boundaries of personal space of your partner? How to pay attention to him? What to keep a distance in a relationship with him? Only one way out: to ask. Do not seek to immediately alter and reshape everything in his own way. This is only a thought-provoking information and constructive dialogue, which will help later to build a relationship about which you want to ...
You know time passes, and with time, grow and your relationship. You decide to get married, have a child and live together. As different plans. That's just you feel that your relationship is not as warm and hot as before. If a couple of years ago you could not breathe without each other, but now no longer feel a sudden need. Yes, you have common interests, you are well together, but every minute you have with each other is no longer spend. Your partner increasingly have the desire to be alone or to meet with friends, and you do not mind to spend leisure time individually. I think it's completely normal things.
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