I think that every man can be a very good father. All they need is experience and wisdom. For example, a good dad can teach skills important to boys for becoming a man: sports, courtship, grooming, how to make male friends. A woman could certainly teach these skills if she had them, but perhaps there would be elements missing than only a man would be likely to know? Besides he can be a model for girls and boys what a good man is like (trustworthy, respectful, skilled, self-disciplined, confident but humble). But aren’t these just traits of any good person, regardless of gender? Is there some specific element of the idea of man-ness that only a man can demonstrate?
I think that there no such men who are not created for parenting. It is just the personal decision of every of us. Of course, there can be some hesitations concerning becoming a parent, inner fears and frustration sometimes. Fathers can give a son the basic rules of becoming a real man in future, be a role model and example of courage and strong will-power. I even heard that if a girl is given love, tenderness and care by her father in a childhood, she will have happy family life in future. Upbringing of children may seem a difficult thing, but it is great experience, which give wisdom and maturity in life.
I think that it is a difficult question, because seems like you never know for sure before you become father, but when you have a child it becomes too late to understand that it is not for you. I just have such an example. My ex classmate got married when he was 20, he always posessed like he is family oriented, so in love with her wife, dreaming about having a baby. His wife was waiting till she finish studying and refused all his propositions about having a child sooner. He said it is his dream, his sense of life. She got pregnant, he was the happiest man ever, she gave birth to a child, he understood he was wrong, he is not ready.
I believe that being a good father is something that is given from birth to you. But at the same time I think that you are able to acquire such skills, and qualities that may help you in bringing up children, and in making it properly. If you have the genuine desire, then you haven't to be worry anyway.
I find interesting information about it.A simple saliva test, which is done after the man looked erotic video, can show, whether he wants to be a father.
"The man who wants to have a baby, after viewing erotica does not happen a strong surge of testosterone," explain experts at the University of Chicago (USA). First this test were 100 volunteers who do not have children. First, each of them answered a dozen of questions formulated so that the researchers were able to identify the interest of their respondents in the child. Then the experiment participants were told about his attitude to easy proximity and relationships with relatives. And then the men went to a special room to view the exciting video.
Sure,there are different types of people in the world and definitely not all of them are created to be a father.Sadly,but true.Some might think-hey,I can do it,let's try-and then just staright up fail,unfortunately for the kid.And some won't even think of nothing like that-they just love themselves too much,so they ain't got nothing to share with a future kid.So,to be a real father,not to just be called that way,you have to feel the right way,you have to feel that's truly what's yours-then it will be alright for you and for your kid. ;)
I think that if the father is rude to other family members, never holding back his emotions, about me using bad words, absolutely nothing to do at home, in the future he will probably be sorely disappointed by the behavior of his grown-up son. Because the child will copy what you saw in the family.No comments, punishments, incentives, and other educational methods do not have such a powerful force, as an example of behavior.If the father is a person with good manners and solid principles of life, well he will be able to raise my son without any additional methods.
I just have such an example. My ex classmate got married when he was 20, he always posessed like he is family oriented, so in love with her wife, dreaming about having a baby. His wife was waiting till she finish studying and refused all his propositions about having a child sooner. He said it is his dream, his sense of life. She got pregnant, he was the happiest man ever, she gave birth to a child, he understood he was wrong, he is not ready. The child was 2 weeks old when he went away and decided to choose another life- no responsibilities, no children, no stress, just having fun. I was wondering if he was really thinking that he needs this baby or just talking and could he ever become a good father after such a story...even with time...hardly believe.
I think that having a genetic connection with a child is not enough to be called a parent of this child, I think. Each of us can have sex (if we talk about straight men) or give his sperm to be used for conception a child (as for gay men), but it does not mean that we are already good parents.
We are not born them, we become them. And as for those who think that they are not created to be fathers, it is really better for them not to have children if they think so. Because having a child is a serious step and if you have no willing for it personally and do it just not to differ from others, your child will understand it and he or she will suffer because of lack of your love.
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