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Nill
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Hi, guys! How do you think is it important while adoption process too choose the race of the child? Or it is doesn't matter for you where is the child from? I just wonder because when you adopt a child from the other country you force child to know a lot of things about other country, about other customs and traditions, about other rules etc. Is it ok for child to rebuild all the reality he/she has before? Or it is better to adopt child locally and not to change child's life completely?

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Lanny
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Not always there is ability to adopt child loccaly and intendend parents are searching for ability to adopt in other countries. I can't say that international adoption has some negative influence to the child of other race or at the parentswho have child of other race. Yes, there can be some problems with language or some traditions and customs which were unknown for the child beforehand. but children have ability to learn everything very fast, so it is just a question of time.

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Nill
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While you may think you know yourself and your family members very well, it's important to examine your beliefs and attitudes about race and ethnicity before adopting a child of another race or culture. Try to think whether you have made any assumptions about people because of their race or ethnic group. There are two reasons for this exercise: to check yourself -- to be sure this type of adoption will be right for you, and to prepare to be considered "different."When your child is young, an extra hug and a heart-to-heart talk might be all it takes to help him or her through a difficult situation. While the hugs and the heart-to-heart talks never stop, as your child gets older, you and your child will need more specific coping skills to deal with the racial bias you might face together as a family. Are you ready to fully understand these issues and help your family deal with whatever happens?

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Richard
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I don't think that race matters. And many celebrities who adopt children from poor African and Asian countries also think so. The only possible discomfort may be only because everybody (including a child) will know that this child is not biologically yours and it will cause a lot of questions. But I think that love wins everything and you will cope with it. But on the other hand it is easier from a legal side to adopt a child locally (if adoption for gay couples is not forbidden by law in your country), so it is for you to decide. But love does not know any boarders.

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Nill
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In fact, race shouldn't matter – and certainly in the specific case of the young boy in foster care it should not. But for many black and mixed-race children, ethnicity shapes their experience. To imagine it doesn't is to imagine the earth is flat. I've lived that experience and I know it's real. But I also know that the single most important thing for a child is a loving family. Sometimes it is difficult to meet both these fundamental needs – for a loving family, and for ethnicity to be acknowledged and at least partially reflected. Black, Asian and children from other ethnic minorities wait longer than white children to be adopted. There are horror stories about social workers refusing to give them a loving family because they prefer a never-ending quest for the "perfect match".

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Nill
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Thanks, for your sharing your thoughts and opinions. I agree that when you see this little creature it doesn't matter what race he is. But we should not forget that in each country where live people who don't like other races and there are a lot of cases everywhere when people of other races are under the pressure of local residents. i don't want my child to suffer from racial discrimination in future. As for me discrimination according to the race is rather widespread in our days.

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Steve
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I think that race is not the crucial point in the process of adoption. It is up to you whether to draw a child's attention to the customs, traditions and language of their country. It depends to a child I suppose too. If it is a child who can already talk or it is a teenager, I suppose that we should respect the choice of a child, because at such age children already have their own vision of the world. But if it is a newborn baby or a baby from 1 to 3 years old, I think that it is worth to pay attentiion to the customs and traditions of your country, it would be helpful for a child in the future I think.

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Nill
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I know something about it. Not always there is ability to adopt child loccaly and intendend parents are searching for ability to adopt in other countries. I can't say that international adoption has some negative influence to the child of other race or at the parentswho have child of other race. Yes, there can be some problems with language or some traditions and customs which were unknown for the child beforehand. but children have ability to learn everything very fast, so it is just a question of time.

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Ben29
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I don't want to lie to you, guys, that's why I will be honest, and open with you, especially when it goes about children. As for me, the race of my future child is rather important question. I will be glad to bring up a caucasian appearance child. The gender, creed and other, matters are not so important.

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Nill
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It is all on you-is it important to you at all,what race your child will be and all that?Some might want to adopt only white kids and it's not because they are racist or something-it's just the way their desire is.Some would like to adopt a black kid-just look at some celebrities doing that,like Angelina Jolie or Charlize Theron,or Sandra Bullock (love and respect them all-beautiful and strong women).As for me,I think it doesn't matter at all-as long as you want exactly this kid in your family,and you know that you will love him,no matter what.

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Nill
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To tell the truth I don't think that race matters. And many celebrities who adopt children from poor African and Asian countries also think so. The only possible discomfort may be only because everybody , including a child, will know that this child is not biologically yours and it will cause a lot of questions. But I think that love wins everything and you will cope with it. But on the other hand it is easier from a legal side to adopt a child locally , if adoption for gay couples is not forbidden by law in your country, so it is for you to decide. But love does not know any boarders.

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