I do not think it should be any problem. If you just do not want to stay with your partner at some bar until the morning, you just have to tell him about it. In addition, if your partner is drinking alcohol, you can always offer him something more interesting, when you return home. I do not think that you just have to show your whims for him. You have to understand that your partner also has some desires. that he needs. In addition, he also wants to cheer up at least a little. Therefore, to be honest, I do not see a problem in this situation completely. You must act according to the situation.
I also think that if we really want to, we can always find the right levers that will help us to influence the situation. It is really important especially in family relationships. If your partner has decided to stay, you can tell him about some conditions for him. For example you can always say that if you're going to stay here until the morning, I will not be waiting for you at home. When will you come home, I'm just going to sleep. Or you can even say that you can be offended by it, if he did not leave the bar or night club with you to go home. I think that we can have so many ways to cope with this problem.
I think that first of all you just have to understand the reason why your partner does not want to go home. Maybe something happened to him? Or maybe something happened in your relationship? I think you can always understand the problem with the help of a normal conversation with your partner. And I do not think it can really be a serious problem. You just have to understand your partner in all his wants and needs. In addition, you also need to compromise from time to time. Sometimes we feel too many restrictions on family life. Because from time to time someone is trying to control the situation. And I think that's wrong.
I do not think you should put some conditions for your partner or something else. If he wants to stay, you just should not have too much zeal. Also, if your partner is going to be with his friends, to whom you can trust - why not? You can just go home and wait for your partner back. Or you can just go to sleep. I think this is not a problem for your relationship. Because we can get things a lot worse from time to time. I do not think you should worry about such trifles. Because your partner might just want to drink a few glasses of alcoholic drinks and relax.
I think that you have to talk to him. I am even bored a little bit from these talks about the relations when you do not want to share the expectations and the dreams, desires and tastes of the partner. I think that this is wrong and may be you do not love him at all. When you feel attraction to someone, you need to show it in everything - sex, bars, drinks, music..I mean everything. What if he will refuse to do the things that you like to do with him. I am not sure that you will like it a lot. So talk to him, and maybe you will find the solution.
In my opinion you should give your partner freedom for doing such things, because he has the right for having personal space. Of course, if it repeats too often you should talk with him, share your feelings, emotions and points of view concerning that. But if it happens sometimes, I think that you do not have anything to worry about, it is just the way he gets relaxed. Do not be too absorbed in your partner, have the time for arranging your person space too, meet with friends, have fun, because life is so fleeting. At the same time you should have some common interests with your partner.
You can go somewhere with your friends too and have fun without him once just to look at his reaction on it. If he begins to scandal and to be jealous, then tell him that this exactly how you feel when he goes somewhere without you. But if his reaction on it will be normal then it means that he also has nothing to hide from you, he is just spending time with his friends. And if you feel bored without him, find some hobby or some interesting way to spend time, you should not depend on him totally. He will appreciate you much more if you respect his right for own space.
You know this theme is very interesting for me. And what is a problem? My partner is not a slave, he does not belong to me and does not have to sit near me and get bored when I am tired. Of course, he can have fun without me, have some friends who I don't know.
I have to respect his own space and his personality. Some things must be in common, but some must be different - tastes, interests. He is not my twin to be my copy, similar with me in everything. If he likes clubs and parties - okay, I have nothing against it. It would be enough for me just to know where he is and when he comes back
Place for chatting and discussion of important questions, place where you can share your stories and experience, to find friends and to become friend for someone.