What do you think about the situation when relatives ( sister, mother, cousin) becomes a surrogate mother for you, karrying your baby? do you think it is a good idea or not?
I am not sure it is a good idea. I would prefer stranger to become a surrogate mother, but not one of my realtives. It can cause problems in future, I think...
I agree with you. it is a bit weird. It is better to have someone who consider it to be a work and will not be a part of your life in future. From the other hand you know this person and will follow the pregnancy and child's birth. and it will be much cheaper if you do not have to pay to surrogate mother.
Yes, there are some pros, but still I would not choose this way to become father. I do not want my sister or especially my mother to karry my child. it is a bit strange and weird , I think.
Better she's to be unknown person. But i know a lot of examples when mother gives birth children for her daughter. It's so strange for me!
But the good reason of it is that it becomes possible to save thousands of dollars in agency fees, and it is much more comforting to have personal knowledge of the medical history as well as the background of the Surrogate Mother.
If a woman is not against and realizes that she wants to give you this baby,I won't mind.Another question.The whole life your child will want to her and she to him,because the relationship between the child and mother is very big. :huh: Do you wish it?I don't think
I do not know about it. I think it's not a good idea. Also, if I use surrogacy program, I do not want my mom or sister or someone else has been a surrogate mother. I understand that I will have a lot more confidence in them. But in any case, childbirth - is a very difficult thing. And I do not want to make it my mother or any of my relatives. In addition, I do not want to spoil the relationships. Because I do not know what can happen afterwards. Maybe someone of them will have a maternal instinct? So, I do not want to be a problem because of this. In addition, I want to say goodbye to the surrogate mother forever after I will get my baby! It's all! Because I think that each of us can get a lot of problems along the way. But nobody wants to address these challenges. Why should we get problems when we use an easier way? :cheer:
Surrogate motherhood is one of many currently available forms of Assisted Reproductive Technologies (ARTs) that have developed in response to the increasing number of individuals/couples who find themselves unable to conceive a child on their own. Surrogate motherhood involves the services of a woman who agrees to carry/gestate a child for the express purpose of surrendering that child to the intending/commissioning couple upon the birth of the child. The demand for surrogate motherhood is created by a diagnosis of female infertility, although a woman need not be infertile in order to employ the services of a surrogate. You are really crazy if you want to have a child, while the surrogate mother of your baby is one of your relative, it sounds ridiculous.
On the one hand I understand people who ask their relatives to become surrogate mothers of their children - you know exactly whose genes your future child will have, you can control the whole pregnancy ( no one will ever forbids you to call your relative in the middle of the night if you want to ask her how she feels) And one more advantage is there will be no question about breastfeeding for a child and further communication with the surrogate mother - she will definitely be present in your future child's life as his or her aunt or granny or any other relative and nobody will ever forbid her to communicate with a child anytime she wants. But on the other hand asking a relative to become a surrogate mother has disadvantages from the point of view of law.
From the point of view of law it really can be dangerous comparing to applying to the reproductive clinic for the surrogacy service. If you apply to a clinic, you usually sign a contract where it is admitted that the surrogate mother has no right for the child she carries and bares, and trying to take a child or to interfere somehow in his or her life in future will be considered as transgressing and will be punished by law. If you ask a relative to be a surrogate mother of your child, it will not happen because you trust your relative and you don't sign any contract which would provide some legal guarantees fr you during a pregnancy and after the child is born. And biologically she is a mother, so if she wants to take a child, the law will b on her side
everything depends on your relations with family members. If your sister or cousin or someone else have desire to help you to become parents it is good. Idea variant is when your relative live somewhere far away and after the performance of the program. It doesn't mean that you just use your family member to reach your own goals, it is easier when you live far away because after the program it will be easier for surrogate and for you to raise a child. Turn special attention to psychological condition of potential surrogate mother even if it is your family member.
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