Ok, for now I am single. But I hope to find the person who will understand my ambitions in becoming the real father for the son or the girl. I want to be the head of the family. All of my friends tell me that my behavior is more likely to be the behavior of the straight man.
We have different surnames because we are not married officially yet. And to tell the truth, even when we are, I don't know whether I will take his surname or he will take mine or each of us ill remain with his own. We still hadn't made an exact decision. And as for our future child, I think that everything depends on his\her name - a surname should sound good together with the name. But a double surname is also a variant, we will think about it. I don't want to change my surname, I like it. But my partner likes his surname too, and each of us probably wants future children to have his surname
yes we have common surname with my husband and that's why we didnt have such problems which surname to give the child. but i know that young paretns often face this problem as one everyine wants the child to caru his surname i think that it is the fairest variant which could be, and i dont think that you will find compromise in this question.it is very hard. so i advice you not to be angree at your partner if he wants it. try to be patient and solve this problem.
My partner and I have not been married yet, we have different surnames. I think that the best way will be to give a child a double surname. My partner and I even did not have any hesitations while deciding it, because I think that a child is the little personality who has the strong connection to both of us. All in all, some people believe that it will influence a child's future or that a name should match the surname, but I do not suppose that it is quite important. The point is in the question for any parent not to be offended. There should be compomise.
I think that our baby will have the surname of my partner. We have already decided this a few months ago. And I think that all of this is normal. Also, I do not know why it can be important for someone? We decided it all in this way because we both really want to have a child. And I think that a child should have the surname of the head of the family. So, we live in this way. I know that many ordinary families have one surname. But we do not see a big difference. In addition, each of us wants to keep our surname in any way. So, it's just our choice.
well i think that if you are married than you wont definitely have such problem. but if not then it will be very serious problem for you as to my mind every person wants his hild to have his surname. and you will do nothing with it. if you see that your partner is really eager to do it and for you it is not so important ten leave it and keep your nerves and relations safe. i think that people definitely have to find compromise. without it is impossible.do not be too stubborn.
To tell the truth i think that it is just a sheet of paper where some letters are written. I don't mind my child to have my partner's surname and the same i don't mind my child to have my surname or double surname not to offend one of us. But in general it doesn't matter. for me it doesn't. But of course there are some for whom it is crucially important and they really think over this question. If it is forbidden by law to give child double surname think it is the best way uot. of course if it sounds good.
I live with my partner for a long time, and to be honest, I am ready to be a family with him, I mean legal family. But I am not going to convince him that he must marry me, no! We are going to adopt a child, and I agree he/she will have his surname, it is not so fundamental for me.
Never thought that it's a must-to accept your partner's surname,just like you're not supposed to be married no matter what,I mean,we're living in a modern world-why get married?You can't just live together with the one you love?Why?! :cheer: For us,civil marriage is just perfect-for two years now.Each one of us has his own surname and it's great that way,cause,you know,we've got used to it. ;) And our kid,our daughter Caroline is having both of our surnames in her adoption certificate.We truly all feel great about this. B)
Yes) we have the same surname with my partner. Although creating a brand new surname after marrying is a rare choice, it’s viewed by some as the most equal, romantic, and kid-friendly solution in an antiquated patriarchal system. But it’s also a very easy way to anger your loved ones.
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