You're like between two hells-how long you think you will be able to take it?It's not fair of them to use you as some boxing partner-you just don't reply. :) They're pouring it all on you,not even thinking about.how it will affect you-now that's f*cking selfish,knowing that they are both your close friends!I know you don't want to hurt them,but if you don't want to bury yourself in that ocean of words-don't hesitate.Tell them immediately,one by one.Or,if you want to have fun,gather them up and the tell all-you'll have something to remember for a long time. :lol:
Not long ago I watched an interested video on YouTube about bad friends, they are called “frienemies” that's two words combined into one. Friend and enemy in one face. If I am not mistaken your situation is just one of these. On public I am sure they communicate friendly, but behind each others back gossip and say lies, and all the dirty stuff. That's sucks, really. Hate such people and try ti avoid them in my company. As for you I think that the best way will be not to intrude, but stop listening to the bullshit they are uttering. Leave them both and be happy.
You know i think that it is rather comic situation. I think that the solution may be only if you stop listening them when they talk with you about each other. Say that it is not interesting for you to talk about it because it is not your business , and it is really not your business, whatever relationships you have or used to have with each of these guys before, the relationships between them are relationships only between two of them and there cannot be the third side. And of course, don't retell these gossips from one to another, because the relationships between them and between each of them and you will be spoiled completely
Well, this story is disgusting and funny at the same time. I get very embarrassed from such stories. I agree with many of you guys. You should not talk about it to any of them. If they live like this, they surely feel comfortable. Perhaps deep down, each of them knows what is really going on. If you tell someone, it will entail a conflict and you will be dragged into it. I would have done so. But if you really want to tell this, or if you want everything to be fair, then why not? Think well of the consequences and make your choice.I'm not sure that you will be communicating with these people now. In any case, I wish you good luck
I think that you should remember that it is not worth to be connected with a situations when someone told the other one that he did something that the third person didn't like. Always it has bad consequences and as a rule people who took part in this story didn't talk with each other for years. especially if you all are connected somehow... if you want to save this relations just keep silent.
The only thing you should take and remember from this lesson is that they are not the best friends and in it not a fact that they don't talk about you when gather together for a cup of coffee.
As for me I don't think that these two guys are your friends, unfortunately. They consider you a shoulder to cry on. And not even a shoulder, just "free ears" to hear their complains one on another. So you either tell them to shut up when they start it again or finish the relationships with them.
If you are really friends, then you should find something else to discuss except the previous private life. If no, then I repeat once again, think whether you need such "friends" at all, if all they give you is negative energy received from previous relationships. I don't think you need it.
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