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Peter
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when it is time to talk about future?

of course, not all people who date after some time live together or marry but mostly all of t them try to build some relations and think about future.
So I wonder when it is time to build such plans and to talk about future when you are dating. Is it ok to touch such themes when you are dating a year for example, or it is better to wait till the time you reach the date two years? It is important not to scare each other with such talks. All people think in different way and for someone it can be right time and someone even don't think about it. So, i wonder when it is most optimal time?

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Peter
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when it is time to talk about future?

think it is a problem for those who have big different difference in age. When people have big gap in age they have different goals, they have different life experience and it can cause a problem when they start to talk about future. but again it is important to think about future, to build plans to set goals. you can't live without goal. and as for suitable time for such talks.. think all couples fall when it is time. it is deeply intimate relations and you two should fell is it time or you don't plus after long communication you should know each other and your reactions to such questions.

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Billy-Bob
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when it is time to talk about future?

i don't think that talking about future can depend on year or two together. if you are both adult people, so what can stop you from planning your future together, only if one of you don't want this future, that's all. Some people date a few month, and began to live together, and this is ok. So i can say that if you are ready at least to talk about this, to plan this so you can do it and ask your partner about his opinion. don't wait. life is too short ;)

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Alex
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when it is time to talk about future?

You are right, saying that all people think in different way. One would be scared with such talks after a year, another would feel upset in these talks would not been started after several months. There is no one rule for every couple, you should look on situation, on relationships, on your partner in general and you will feel when it is the right moment. But I think if you want these theme to be opened in your couple, you should do it, because there is no sense to keep evereything inside instead of sharing with your partner. It is wrong idea and it will not lead to anything. I prefer honesty and sincerety.

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Peter
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when it is time to talk about future?

I think there is no optimal time for such talks. I remember our relationships with my beloved and I remember that we started to talk about future, planning common for us and dreaming about different things together very soon. I think we understood early that we need each other and do not want to loose each other. So it was natural, we just talked about it, without thinking if it is right moment and we have never had a thought about scaring each other with such serious themes. I think you should not think about time too and act depending on the situation and your own thoughts and wishes and then everything will be fine.

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Don
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when it is time to talk about future?

It depends on the feelings and intentions about each other. I think if people love each other and realized the seriousness of their feelings, they will not need to wait years till they can say it. But if there is no love, just being together, a year will not help, even two years or 10 years will not help you.

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Mark
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when it is time to talk about future?

I think a year is too long to wait to start such themes about the future and your family, if you have strong relationships and love each other. It would make me sad if my partner avoid talking about our common future and plans for it for so long.

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Peter
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when it is time to talk about future?

I do not see anything scaring or bad in such themes, and I think thy are needed so you would know your partner's intentions and if he is serious about your future. Or you can just loose a year or two, waiting for the right moment and then understand that you were with a wrong person, who has different values and plans for the future. So it is better to learn about it sooner.

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Peter
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when it is time to talk about future?

These conversations can be at any time. The main thing is to be comfortable for both of you. So, I would choose one of the romantic moments and begin to ask him about this very carefully in the beginning. I will look at all of his reaction. And I'm going to do my personal conclusions on these situations. So, now you have my advice. In any case, I think this is a very serious matter. This issue will show you whether you continue your relationship with him or not. You know, our life is unpredictable, so you can discover something new for you in it at this moment.But in any case, you should ask questions on this subject as soon as possible! Do not waste your time. It's your life.

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John
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when it is time to talk about future?

i think you should feel when your relationships are strong anough to plan the future. they should be not like dating once or twice a week but it should be something more. i can't say in words what it look like but it is easily recognised with the help of feelings.

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Peter
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when it is time to talk about future?

If you feel ready to talk about it then its the best time to do it. If you are not sure about how your husband thinks, take the round about way and ask him how he sees his family in about 5 years or something like that. Don't have kids right away, wait a little and get your relationship and your finances in shape before you talk about staring a family.Right now you really want to travel and do all the things that you want to do before you get "housebounded" taking care of an infant. If you are not 35 yet then you have plenty of time to plan ahead.

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